I need some rest....rant

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I need some rest....rant
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Tue, 04-08-2003 - 8:24am
Ok, I can't figure this part out and I see Jamie's pdoc tomorrow and want to bring some issues to the table with him.

I give him his Ritalin SR on Friday, he's fine and calms down and acts normally playing and using his toys properly.

On Sat/Sun/Mon, I give him his ritalin and he goes into something akin to a trance living in a fantasy world that I'm not invited into unless I participate as one of the characters he's assigned me. For example I couldn't get him to listen at all yesterday unles I introduced myself as the pink power ranger.

When his Father came home of course he had no patience for this at all, just wanted to do dinner and chill out and he took him aside and talked to him about listening. Jamie just jumped up and down the whole time like a mexican jumping bean babbling about nothing in particular and making no eye contact.

Dad told him to start listening and Jamie said no, my listening ears have run out of batteries. By the time I got his clonodine in him and he was starting to get a little drowsy he climbed up on the couch and curled up beside me and told me he couldn't go to sleep until the game boy in his head stopped playing, he doesn't have a game boy.

When he's like this he's so out of control it's scary. Not once yesterday did I establish eye contact with him. It's like he was on a mission switching from one bizarre activity to another, punctuated with periods of running around the house giggling and squealing.

I am so burnt. I need someone to take him for a week and let me slug around and sleep all day. His mood swings are opposite to mine and when he's winging I'm sleeping and vice versa. You would think we would feed off each others emotional energy, but it's just not happening.

Oh yeah and this "Mummy do" has got to go. He won't let anyone but me feed/bath/give meds/assist in dressing. If Dad tries to give him his pills he just spits them out on the floor laughs and runs in the other direction looking for me.

Last night he refused to go to bed in his room without me sitting on the end of his bed because he said if I didn't I might disappear, or he might disappear and he'd never be able to see me again.

I can hear him now.....Ritalin is starting to take effect....he's just geared. I just want to hide under a rock.

Sorry so long

Elspeth

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Wed, 04-09-2003 - 8:03am
Yes, he does have an IEP plan and has had one for years. Unfortunately the people who head up the IEP understand but the administrators and teachers are very low tolerance and I got sick of the phone calls and the suspensions because they just didn't understand (or chose not too). My son and I just couldn't take the rejection anymore. The GED program has told us he only needs about 3 months of prep time to get his diploma and then he can get on with his life. He will be 18 in May and this is (hopefully) the best course of action for him. He was only considered a sophomore in high school because of all the time he was home schooled by a tutor (the school's recommendation-which if I had it to do over again I would have fought tooth and nail - he is so lacking now in social skills) and all the suspensions incurred. It has been an extremely tough row to hoe, but I will not give up hope that my son will excel. He has high hopes and aspirations for himself and as exhausting as it may be I plan to help him achieve them.

Thanks Kathy for responding. Sorry this is so long.

Nancy

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Tue, 04-08-2003 - 5:43pm
Elsbeth,

Bless your heart! I know it can make you crazy, my son has non stop energy that only seems to get worse at night. He takes aderrall extended at about 8am every morn but by about 6pm at night he is literally climbing the walls.

Good luck sweetie, let your husband watch him for a few hours on sat and go to a spa. You have to take time for you to.

HUGGS

Shaun
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Tue, 04-08-2003 - 5:43pm
Nancy, does your son have an IEP(individual education plan)? I was wondering if he would have any accommodations for the GED program. Just a thought. If he doesn't is he still in the school system? If so, can he be tested for any learning disabilities? I am only thinking this because we have a support group & a mom has a 17y/o who stopped going to school. She is getting an IEP for him, he is now DXed Bipolar and Autistic.
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Tue, 04-08-2003 - 2:35pm
Of course you do!!! My husband is alot like yours and frankly is still in denial after all these years. I have been exactly where you are and I understand your frustration. My son is now 17 and it took me until he was in the 4th grade to get anyone to listen to me. He was so bad as an infant that when he was teething he chewed his knuckles and forearms bloody and black & blue. We have had lots of ups and downs and just today enrolled him in the GED program for his diploma because the high school here is seriously unequipped to deal with someone like our sons. Now I am in a panic that he will have an "outburst" at the college setting for his GED and they will kick him out of that program as well. Then what other options do I have. Now my problem is that my son talks incessantly and gets highly offended when asked to "hush". He is a threatening presence as well (6'4" and 235 lbs) and people just don't understand.

Hey, I'm sorry I guess I am rambling, but what I really wanted to say is that you are certainly not alone and there is always support on this board. Come and vent, cry, feel better. We're here for you.

Nancy

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Tue, 04-08-2003 - 1:46pm
Elsbeth, I hope your keeping some kind of journal, chart or something of your sons behavior. And I hope the Psych actually does something this time. Your son sounds like he is suffering needlessly.