Keeping your sanity

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Keeping your sanity
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Wed, 04-16-2003 - 2:32pm
This is my son's week off for spring break. We normally would take vacation time but this year we could not due to my having had surgery (Now i'm all better though). Anyway I am about to lose my mind. He is my only child--8, and ADHD. Just soo hard to keep him busy and me not feel overwhelmed. We have had things planned like park trips with friends, a friend of his is coming tomorrow afternoon..and today we colored eggs and made cookies. But I cannot keep him busy EVERY moment..I am just so tired sometimes of the frustration he makes me feel :( Makes me feel ashamed to be so frustrated with my own child.
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Wed, 04-16-2003 - 2:55pm
I can completly understand. My 6 year old is also ADHD and requires const. action. He hs never been able to entertain himself, and not one to watch tv for longer than 30min at a time(this I am gratefull for however). I can not tell you how many times I have heard "Whos gonna play with me?" I feel awfull saying you need to play by your self mommy has things to do but you have to, so dont worry your are not alone in this.

Play doh keeps him busy for awhile, I also bought him a jumprope and a hulla hoop, between the two of them he stayed busy on his own for over an hour. A huge thing for him. Also wooden models that he can build and paint on his own(you can buy easy ones that can be painted with craft paiints at alot of craft stores, they are put together with elmers glue)These keep him busy for a while at first he wanted help but after getting the genral idiea he likes to do it himself, and he is so proud when he is done.

Hope this helps some--just remember your not the only one who getts frustrated :)

Shaun
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Wed, 04-16-2003 - 4:07pm
Ours was two weeks ago, UUGGHH!!! Here is what we did, go to a movie, go to put-put golf, go to an amusment part, we went to the library, went out to lunch & to get ice cream, went to the mall, at home he watched some cartoons, helped me plant some plants, played with bubbles, rode his bike & scooter. We also painted rocks to put around his garden.

Good luck & don't feel bad. I was jumping up & down on Mon when he walked out the door for school again!!!

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Thu, 04-17-2003 - 8:55am
Don't forget the 'break' in Spring Break ... kids should not be expected to be entertained 24/7. It sounds like you have a lot of fun plans for him for the week, but you both need (deserve and expect) some down time as well. So, why don't you BEFORE going to the park say "for the next hour, let's do something alone" ... and then you do what you want and let him entertain himself. He needs to learn to play alone, find things to occupy his time, etc. without having to 'do' all the time. Everyone needs some down time, and boredom is NOT a bad thing (despite popular opinion.) People get creative when they are bored. If he complains that he's bored, tell him that's o.k. ... tell him this is the time to be bored, and he should enjoy it. If he gets whiney, they try another tactic ... instead of entertainment, how about having him help you complete a task or chore ... clean his room, reorganize a closet, weed the garden. Work side by side and accomplish something together.

I think many parents make the mistake of thinking that time with kids has to be go, go, go and do, do, do ... but the truth is that part of the reason they get a 'break' is to allow some down time. (My kids were on break 2 weeks ago, and I took them to Disney World for 5 days ... DH didn't come with us, just me and 2 kids. And, we had a great time. But, the day before we went, they helped me to clean the house ... and the day we got home was a day to simply 'be' ... they asked me to take them to Chuck E. Cheeses! Hello? Did you not just have 5 days in Disney World? Geesh! But, having some time to just 'be' isn't such a bad thing.)

Nancy

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Thu, 04-17-2003 - 11:24am
YESSS!!!! Only a few of my sons "entertainments" were planned. Riding his bike around the neighborhood was really good for him, and me. He actually stopped and helped a neighbor who was putting up a new fence. I had to go find him at dusk, LOL> Hope he wasn't tooooo helpful,LOL. Where I live it is warm, so was nice for him to play in his swing set & with his GI Joes in the mud puddle he had made while I worked in my gardens. We had to go out of town for a doc appointment for him, so made that fun by going to a $1.oo store, to lunch & to an ice cream place, he loved it all.
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Thu, 04-17-2003 - 1:18pm
Thanks for all the replies.. it is nearing the end of our week and I am thankful tomorrow is Friday and hubby will be home for part of that day LOL. We're going to see "Holes" at the movies tomorrow. Plus the weekend will be easy with both of us and Easter plans. I think it helps me to read your replies, just to know I am not alone in feeling a little crazy when I have him alllll week long to myself. I love him and yet his behavior can really make me frustrated. Not even necessarily his being naughty-- but for instance he has his own agenda--i ask him what he wants for breakfast and he is focused on anything else but answering me.

Right now his best friend is over--and so far that's not even going so great. They are best friends but cannot agree on something they BOTH want to do..sigh. Monday can't come soon enough.