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|Mon, 06-01-2009 - 7:02pm|
I have a 10 year old son who was diagnosed almost two years ago with ADD. He was having problems in school and I spoke with his teacher and his doctor. He has been on Focalin for almost two years now. I have had his dosage increased 1 time since he has been on this medicine. Also his father had a learning disability in school and was put in "slower" classes.
My husband and I separated in March and now my son and I live on our own and my husband has visitation every other weekend. I left a controlling and abusive relationship and my husband wants me back, but I am not going. I know that he says "things" to my son that shouldn't be discussed with a child about my husbands and mine relationship. I think finally my husband is letting go.. he has a g/f now so hopefully he will quit using my son as a go between.
I look at my child who I love so much and wonder, "who is this kid?" He's not the same child. I know it didn't happen overnight, and sometimes I don't know what to do. He throws tantrums and whines when he does not get his way. He seems to have no control over his actions sometimes. He is a space cadet sometimes and I always have to tell him to do things multiple times. He is angry, aggravated and detached. He constantly worries. He repeats himself over and over again. The littlest thing sets him off. For example today I did not unlock the door when he came home off of the bus. He knocked and since I did not get to the door right away he was bawling in tears. Any little thing can upset his day. He is a very sarcastic child who loves to be silly all the time. When I try to correct him, I have to say the same thing at least twice before it seems to register with him.
His school work is lacking. His handwriting is awful. He has a tick where he traces over his letters again and again. He has problems with reading and is in a special group to help him because he is behind grade level on his reading. His teacher has commented that since me and my husband split up, Jacob's schoolwork has gotten worse, his attention span is worse and he will not do his classwork. He did hit his bench marks in other areas so they will pass him on to the 5th grade.
I know he needs help, but I am at a loss of how, where, why to get it. I know his school does have a 504 program. Are there pros and cons to that program? Should I take him for testing with someone outside the school system?
Currently I have insurance, but that will lapse in July ( I was laid off). I will go apply for Medicaid for my son so he can continue to get his focalin meds. How pricey is private testing?
If you have any other comments or suggestions I would greatly appreciate it, right now I am just at a lost for words. I love my child so much and I want him to succeed in life.