My dd's teacher was terrorizing her....

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My dd's teacher was terrorizing her....
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Sat, 04-03-2010 - 2:23pm

My dd was diagnosed ADHD at the end of kindergarten. We went 18 months working with her teachers and doctor to find a medication that worked for her only to end up with a 2nd grader with suicidal thoughts (thank you Vyvanse!) So we took her off the meds and things at school got very rough moreso for her teacher than her. She was happy, eating and excited again but she lost what was left of her focus in class and it apparently sent her teacher over the edge.


I started getting reports from other parents that my dd's friends were telling them how mean the teacher was to my dd and a particular incident of her standing over my dd's desk and screaming at her until she cried. After hearing these reports I asked my dd about it and she told me what was going on but said she didn't want to tell me because she thought it was her fault because she can't sit still.


After all this my dd is in a really scary place for such a little person. She's not excited about school, she's blaming herself and she's become very emotinally needy. I made the decision to homeschool her in hopes that being away from that environment for the rest of the year I could help her build up her self esteem and get her excited about learning again.


I met with the principal and told her what was going on and why I was taking her out of school

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Registered: 05-02-2004
Sat, 04-03-2010 - 11:31pm

If you decide to do the IEP, like previous said, do it soon. What you want to do is write a letter to the principal stating that you want your daughter tested for learning disabilities. If she has issues with writing, you want an occupational therapy test. If she has any issues with speech, request that too. Then say that you look forward to hearing from the school about when they will do the testing. Hand it to the principal if you can, keep a copy for yourself. Registered mail is also good - proof that they got it. You don't need to do a lot of explaining why you need the testing, just that you feel that she needs it. (You can throw in that you feel she is being "left behind" as a political note if you want!)

I too am totally unimpressed with that school - I am sure that the teacher, even if new, must have been talking about your daughter to the other teachers, and someone should have said something. Unfortunately, I have found the that the schools won't do a darn thing until they get it in writing. On the last message board on the ADHD board is a post from nathanialsmom, who is cl for the special education board. She can help out too if you have questions. And, legally, even if you are homeschooling, if you request an evaluation, the school has to do it. They can offer you services as a homeschooler, you don't have to accept if you don't want to. If you are going back in the fall, it would be good to have in place.

Good luck with all of this - please feel free to ask questions about any of this process - you are not the first person to go through this, and unfortunately probably won't be the last.

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