My son cries before school

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Registered: 10-10-2007
My son cries before school
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Mon, 09-10-2012 - 10:29am

I am wondering if anyone else has experienced what I am experiencing.

My son started 2nd grade in August.  For the past 2 years, since kindergarten, he loved school!!  He is a smart boy and gets excellent grades.  Ever since the first week of school this year, when I walk him to the bus stop, he cries and tells me, "I am going to miss you Mommy."  I always hug him, tell him I love him, comfort him and tell him to have a good day and I will see him at 2:15pm.  He tells me "ok" and gets on the bus.  One day, he missed the bus and I had to take him to school and sign him in late and walk him to his class.  He stood outside his classroom door just crying, telling me to wait, not to go in yet until he stops crying.

He did not cry in kindergarten, nor 1st grade that I know of.

He does have ADHD and "had" been on medication for that for the past several years.  He does not take medication during summer break (recommended by the doctor) in order for him to gain weight and not build up a tolerance to the medication.  He was fine all summer, so we are trying this school year without any medication and he is doing great, except the crying.

Any ideas?  I am wondering if maybe the medication for the ADHD numbed his emotions the past 2 school years and now that he is not on medication, he is actually "feeling"  what most children would feel in kindergarten?

Your opinions would be appreciated and thanks for reading.

 

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Registered: 10-20-2012
Sat, 10-20-2012 - 11:08am

it is possible that the sudden change in disposition of your son is because of the medications. But, it would be best to consult the doctor about your concern. On the other hand, why don't you try setting the mood of your son a few hours before going to school. It could probably help him if he had been conditioned already to be going to school. More so, I found that scientific research made use of Music Therapy to help children with ADHD improve classroom learning, attention, and help them exhibit more appropriate behavior. So, why not try this more practical approach to lessen your burden.

http://music.sound-add-adhd-treatment.com/music-therapy-classroom-learning-strategy-children-adhd/

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Registered: 10-10-2007
Mon, 09-10-2012 - 3:26pm

Thank you Melissa for responding.  We have parent/teacher conference tomorrow, so I plan to ask the teacher.  When he cries at home, it is on the walk to the bus stop and today he was still crying when he got on the bus.  (it is not the bus).  The driver was nice and asked him if he is okay and he said yes.

I will come back tomorrow after I talk to the teacher.

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Mon, 09-10-2012 - 3:12pm

I didn't think about it until you suggested it, but you are right that the medication could have been calming any anxieties he was having in the past. The other thought I had was that something in school is bothering him, but you said it's been happening since the beginning so that doesn't quite explain it.

I feel bad for him, I hate to see them upset when they are going to school. Did you ask his teacher about it yet, and how long he is upset for?

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Registered: 10-10-2007
Mon, 09-10-2012 - 2:05pm

Thank you for replying to my post.  We are actually having parent/teacher conferences tomorrow, so I hope to find out more about what is happening in class.  The past 2 years, he loved school and told me he was friends with everyone.  This year, he told me no one likes him and that his teacher is crabby.

Maybe the same thing is going on with my son, as you mentioned, happened in school with yours.

I will try talking to him more.

Thanks,

 

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Registered: 10-03-2003
Mon, 09-10-2012 - 1:01pm

Wow many hugs to him.  I don't know much about the medication, but based on what I have heard they souldn't mask emotions.  Is he having problems with anyone in the school or in class?  Does he like his teacher?  Something similar was happening with my son in Kindergarten and I sat in a few of his classes and found out that his impulsive behavior was making him feel isolated and therefore not enjoying school.  That was before special ed; once he started getting services and support\supervision in class things improved and he didn't want to miss school at all.  Though he is struggling a little bit this year so far, as he lost his best friend due to his impulsive behavior and the others can't stand some of his behaviors, but he has accepted who he is, so overall he is doing ok.  Ask him if there is something happening in class that he doesn't like and I will talk with his teacher to fine out if he/she has observed anything and share your concerns, so she can make school a pleasure experience for him.