My son's teacher thinks he has ADHD and wants him medicated

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My son's teacher thinks he has ADHD and wants him medicated
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Sat, 10-16-2010 - 11:37am

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Registered: 06-04-2003

I don't think it's fair to say :

Are there really children out there who have never had a neuropschy evaluation that are medicated? That is scary

Our son was diagnosed by a neurologist, NOT a neuropschy because that was WAY out of our means and not covered by insurance at the time DS was diagnosed 4 years ago.

Kathy

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Registered: 07-23-2006

It has been my experience that a lot of teachers these days are very quick to diagnose ADD or ADHD and suggest medication. The truth of the matter is they are not doctors. Children can not be expected to sit still and behave in a classroom all day. Just because your childs teacher can not deal with him does not mean that he has a disorder. You are his mother; do you feel he has a problem? Until you do don't worry about what the school says. MOTHER KNOWS BEST! I took my son to a child psychologist and got him diagnosed because as his mother I felt there was something that needed to be addressed. He was diagnosed with ADHD last year and after three years of the school telling me he needs medication I still have not medicated him. Medication I feel is sometimes quick fix method for the schools and makes the child easier for them to deal with. That said, do what you feel is right for your child and do not let anyone else pressure you. Do your research and make an informed desicion for your child without any outside influence or pressure. Best of luck to you :smileywink:

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Registered: 12-05-2006

I just want to chime in here and say as others have told you, your son's teacher has completely crossed the line. She is not a doctor and cannot diagnose anything. Is she aware that there are many other conditions that can cause ADHD-like symptoms? Like lead poisioning or thyroid problems?

When my son was in kindergarten and having a lot of trouble, no one EVER mentioned ADHD or medication. Not the principal or his teacher.

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Yes, there are different types of ADHD, and they all have different levels of severity.
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Registered: 01-21-2005
Thank you. Yes, this was the one sentence she said that REALLY made me angry. Of course, it wasn't until after I got home and processed everything. I sent her an email and told her that I woudl come into the classroom when he does his independent reading/writing if needed.

Someone asked if this was the first time he's had any attention issues. No, it is not. In preschool he couldn't keep his hands to himself, in first grade he had an excellent teacher who I asked about ADHD and she said he needed more time. That it wasn't her place to say, but that she felt he just needed more time to mature - and was 'all boy'.
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Thanks for your response! I am glad you said that it is the teacher's job to adapt her style of teaching. I really wasn't sure. She did act like it was HIS job to change. She has 27 students and she needs them all on task she said. She is a fast talker and I think my son has his moments of spacing out and then loses track of where he needs to be. If he asks her what they are doing or needs clarification - he gets sent to the 'safe seat' which is basically a time out chair.

To clarify, she doens't have him in a grade level behind in reading, she has him in a different level within the class. The 2nd grade class has 3 levels. She said he should be reading with the top level group, but she has him held back into the level 2 group because level 1 works independantly and he can't do that.

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I forgot to answer your question earlier - do I think he had ADHD. YES. I do think he has ADHD. I also believe he's gifted in some areas. I don't feel his ADHD is that severe (can you have different levels of it?) I do believe his mind is 'always going' and he does have many of the characteristics of ADHD. However, at this point, I don't think medication is necessary (I'm not a Dr but he seems to be doing fine grade wise, socially, etc).
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Registered: 05-06-2007

Been there, done that.

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Does your school have a gifted program?

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