In need of advice...

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Registered: 04-11-2003
In need of advice...
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Wed, 04-16-2003 - 12:55am
Hi, I was looking through some other message boards and this one came to my attention. I have a son that just turned 8 last Jan and I am having a very difficult time with him and am unsure if it could be ADHD or just "boys will be boys". He is very disruptive in class... to the point his teacher has seperated him from the other kids.... mixed emotions on that one but he doesn't seem bothered by it. He is NOT physically harmful to his brother (other than the typical brother spats). He is really struggling in school and I get frustrated trying to help him because he just can not seem to concentrate.

His pediatrician is having us do an evaluation... the more questions I answered yes to the more I saw this is a possibility. I want to help my son, but the medications used to treat it really scare me and I don't want him to be a zombie (my step brother was always "drugged up" on Ritlan). He is a great kid and I don't want him to lose his creative/imaginary side just so he is easier to handle... Anyway, any advice would be helpful. Thanks in advance. ~Connie
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 04-16-2003 - 8:37am
Hi there,

My son is 4.5 and takes 20mg of ritalin slow release every day. By no stretch of the imagination is he drugged up, believe me. In fact, he's almost as active as he is without the ritialin. He is still a creative, charming little boy.

The only difference on and off ritalin is that without it he is all over the place and can't do anything "right". He gets mad at himself for not being able to concentrate on a task for more than a few seconds and gets mad at his toys, or simply cannot figure out what they do.

He is destructive and has rages unmedicated and has become violent. He also takes respirdol which helps control inappropriate behaviour.

On or off ritalin he does not sleep well.

The only way you are going to find out for sure is to have him evaluated by professionals. There is also a new drug that is not a stimulant called Strattera (sp) I live in Canada and it's not available here.

Good luck with your evaluation

Elspeth

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Registered: 04-11-2003
Wed, 04-16-2003 - 11:36am
Thank you for the input. I know there are alot of different options out there than there used to be... but I guess it is still the fear of the unknown, or my son being "labeled". Thanks again...
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 04-16-2003 - 12:54pm
I worried about my son being labelled also, so I just didn't tell anyone. Not even the school he'll be attending next year. I went through private evaluation and except immediate family, I have no need to share.

Hugs

Elspeth

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 04-16-2003 - 3:56pm
Geez, some day I wished my son was zombie!LOL Just kidding, maybe. Anyway, if a child is a zombie on meds the dose it too high. Docs start very low & if needed raise from there. How does your some feel about taking medications? One things to remember is that meds can help a child socially too. They wont be as impulsive, intrusive, loud and all the other ADHD symptoms. Many kids so greatly benefit from meds. There are several meds out now, Ritalin being one, Concerta is an extended release form of Rritalin, Adderall & Adderall XR (extended reliece), Dexedrine, and the new one Strattera. My son takes Adderall XR in the AM & a small dose of adderall at 3. Also each med comes in different doses. Giving meds is a personal decision. Depending on ther severity of your sons ADHD you can use just behavior modifications for mild ADHD.