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Need Advice
Thu, 04-05-2012 - 6:18pm

Ok this is going to be long but I really need some advice on my 4 year old DD. She is a GREAT kid. Loving, caring, picks things up super fast. But she also has some issues and I have no idea if its normal 4 year old behavior or something else. A little background on her. She is a VERY stubborn, hardheaded little girl. She learns things on her own terms when she is ready no matter WHAT I do. I tried to break her of the bink at 6 months and one day at a year old she tossed it aside and

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Fri, 04-06-2012 - 2:31pm

It's really tough to say what it could be, but it wouldn't hurt to talk to your pediatrician or ask for a referrel to a developmental pediatrician or someone that deals behavior issues. Even if it turns out to be nothing, they might have some ideas for you on how to deal with her tantrums.

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Registered: 03-26-2012
Mon, 04-09-2012 - 11:52am

I second everything that cmmelissa said. Also, some kids just will not be made to do something. I think potty training will be like the binky--one day she'll decide that she's not going to wear diapers anymore, and that'll be that. I understand the frustration, though; my daughters were 3 1/2 and 4 1/2 once they were finally potty trained.

Go in and talk with the pediatrician for her 4 year checkup. If nothing else, you'll feel better for having gotten his/her advice.


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Registered: 04-19-2008
Wed, 04-11-2012 - 4:19pm
She is entirely too young to be tested for anything, at 3 this is somewhat normal behavior and having another baby could be worsening it.

Has she been checked out by a pediatrician? If not then I would get that done, and go from there. There are several things that come to mind , but i am not a dr.