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Sat, 08-28-2010 - 7:18pm

My twin boys started Kindergarten four weeks ago and I have spent most days in tears ever since.

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Wed, 09-15-2010 - 5:03pm

Just wanted to give everyone an update.

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Tue, 09-14-2010 - 9:02pm

I don't think it is to young to diagnose him with ADHD, especially if he has the combined type (which it sounds like he does). My son was diagnosed this past spring when we was in Kindergarten and 5 years old. He would never stay in his seat, was always bothering the other kids, jumping, yelling. He had a very rough kindergarten - he was always in trouble and even sent to the principals office at least once a week. It breaks my heart to think of how bad he must have felt, knowing he was doing things wrong but not being able to control himself. Our psych told us they can diagnose as young as 4 but it is usually easier to diagnose once they start school or another structured learning environment.



Good luck!



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Mon, 09-13-2010 - 1:06pm

Your story is exactly why some kids need medication. They are hating themselves and learning because they don't feel like they can control themselves. The inappropriate responses of adults shouldn't have to figure in this, but unfortunately do.

His responses to confrontation are typical of many people. I don't know why adults can't treat kids the same way they treat adult coworkers, but for some reason it is ok to shame kids and berate them in front of others (which is really bad if they have performance anxiety) just because they are kids. The adults don't get it that if they treated the kids the same way they would a co-worker (taking them aside and not making a big deal in front of other people) that the kids would actually respond better.

I hope that things go well for him with the medication.

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Mon, 09-13-2010 - 10:50am

Wow, congratulations so far.

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Fri, 09-10-2010 - 2:34pm

It has been a real eye opener for me as well.

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Fri, 09-10-2010 - 12:43pm
Wow, I have learned a lot today
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Fri, 09-10-2010 - 8:34am

I don't agree that they are going to make this diagnosis for him in Kindergarten, he is 4,5, or 6 yrs old?

He is a twin, were they born premature?
He could have another problem that displays behavior of being unable to handle change, or when things get hectic, and out of order.

He should not be spanked or punished for behavior that is not intentionally defying or disrespecting authority.

Our school district is banned from corporal punishment, but there used to be a letter that was sent home where you say you agree to have the school punish them, or you say you do not allow the school to punish your children physically.

It is allowed in many states and depends on the school district, but us as parents don't have to agree, and we have a right to defend our children if the school says we don't have a say in them hitting our children.

I suggest not going with just what one person says, get evaluations from multiple professionals who specialize in ADHD/ADD or other cognitive delays.

Also many times therapists will not diagnose until they are older with ADD or ADHD, but it all depends on the doctor.

Best of luck.

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Thu, 09-09-2010 - 10:09pm

Glad you got something. Give the meds at least a week, if not 2 to see how they are going to work for him, then go from there. I would still try to get a referral to a Psychologist, and possibly get a Psychiatrist for meds.



A child may HAVE ADHD, but it is not what they ARE. Never tell a child they ARE ADHD.

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Thu, 09-09-2010 - 8:45pm

We finally got Luke's full behavioral evaluation from the school yesterday and faxed it to the pediatrician last night.

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Tue, 09-07-2010 - 2:55pm

I think they are giving you the run around. The school cannot diagnose anything, so why are they doing an assessment? They can test for Learning Disabilities, but that is all.


I would find out if there is an advocacy group in your area, they can help alot.

A child may HAVE ADHD, but it is not what they ARE. Never tell a child they ARE ADHD.

A child may HAVE ADHD, but it is not what they ARE. Never tell a child they ARE ADHD.

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