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|Thu, 04-10-2003 - 1:59pm|
My son has been in trouble at school (first grade) almost constantly since the beginning of the year because he doesn't pay attention in class. My husband and I have tried a multitude of things from positive re-inforcement to punishments that would turn your hair white (no spanking or hitting!), trying to find some way to impress upon him the importance of learning in school. His teacher seems patient, but is also at her limit. No consequence, either good or bad, seems to get through to him. He has good days and bad days. He takes his punishments very stoically and always starts the new day with a promise to do better. His teacher says he spends a lot of time playing with "found items" in his desk, cutting up erasers with his scissors, doodling, etc.
I've been reading some of the posts here and must say he exhibits some of the behaviors you mention, but on a very mild scale. He was a fidgety baby, but not really high-need. He doesn't seem to need as much sleep as most kids, but he does get a good eight hours a night. He is a bit impulsive and hyper sometiimes, but I can usually attribute it to too much sugar. He is very bright, with a huge vocabulary and a heart of gold. He is not violent or destructive, but does cry easily.
My question is: Where do I start to find an answer? His pediatrician? The school psycologist? I am not writing all the things we've tried at home, because I don't want to make this too long, but my husband and I are really running out of ideas to correct this as a behavior problem and are beginning to wonder if there isn't something neurological going on here. This probably sounds petty compared to the things the rest of you are dealing with, but I'm just looking for a bit of guidance as to where I should go from here.
P.S. I'm completely prepared to accept that there is something I'm not doing right. My mother thinks my son is totally manipulating me and just thinks the rules don't apply to him. Any thoughts?