New and need help

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Registered: 03-29-2003
New and need help
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Sat, 03-29-2003 - 8:03am
Hi, on Monday I am taking my 13 year old son to see a doctor to diagnosis him with adhd. He has always had problems (some compounded by his environment...my ex was physically and verbally abusive). For two years he was treated for panic attacks, depression and anxiety. He still has the depression and is on Zoloft. In the last year or so, he has become very violent and threatening. His grades have bottomed out, friends have all but disappeared. He can't finish homework, fidgits all the time, very easily friustrated. He can't look at a project, like picking up his room, and be able to see how to do it. The task overwhelms him, unless I stay and point out each little step. He has been evaluated through our mental health center as being adhd, but this Dr. is supposed to be the best in our area.

I have very little hope right now. His problems overwhelm me and frighten me at times. I know I am just beginning this juourney, but I am so scared. what if the drugs don't work. what if he is really crazy. How do I stop my own fears from interfering with the strength I need to deal with the child. Help

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 03-29-2003 - 8:57am
Lucy actually it's almost a good thing. I have been been married for 12 years and my husband has had crazy mood swings, I thought he had to be bi-polar or syzord! My son who is eight was just diagnosed with ADHD and is on meds and in special classes at school(laws are in place in public schools to help our kids)If you read about ADHD you will find it is genetic and as you see the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. I know now my husband is a product of an undiagnosed untreated ADHD adult and quite possibly so is your ex. So be happy that there is time for intervention and that with time and care you son will NOT grow up to be like his dad.