new to board - started eval process

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Registered: 03-27-2003
new to board - started eval process
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Sat, 09-19-2009 - 8:50pm

I haven't been on ivillage in a VERY long time. I think it was when I was pregnant with my first. And here I am again because of her - ADHD. We're certain that will be the diagnosis. I suspected it when she was only 2 yrs old. She is now 7. I am not scared of the diagnosis, just this journey has been so emotional. Reading the teacher's assessment of my daughter is so painful. And I just don't know where to go from here. We have a great therapist to work with. And I'm sure she'll put us in touch with a support group when we get to that point on this road. But I am just looking to connect with others in this situation.

Do we medicate? Do we do behavioral therapy? Should we expect *everyone* to understand the behavioral therapy stuff? Will it work? Is medication going to change my child? I am filled with so many unknowns and don't know who to ask.

Momma to Sweet Pea, Baby Cheeks, Snuggle Bug and Little Guy
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Sun, 09-20-2009 - 12:05pm

HI, and welcome


I would wait and see what the Neuropsych recommends. Different

A child may HAVE ADHD, but it is not what they ARE. Never tell a child they ARE ADHD.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 09-21-2009 - 10:06am

Good luck--the eval process is a tough one! Um, no, not everyone will *ever* "get" the behavioral therapy, since there are still plenty of very, very annoying people who think that ADHD is a made-up disease where we just have to discipline the child more. They are idiots, but do exist.

Medication--if the meds change your child in a dramatic negative way, then that med is NOT right for your kid (Oh, OK, skipping some of the rebounding type effects that do wear off in the first month or so). Seriously, I was *terrified* to medicate my kid back when, that it would change him, make him less himself. They really, truly don't. They make him MORE himself, more capable, more interested in the world, they make his life easier for him & the people around him so he gets to have more fun, can handle school & its demands better. Obviously, you won't be medicating for awhile--you need to finish getting the diagnosis & all...but for me, the way I talked myself into it originally was that we could always just STOP if it were bad. It's not a decision you're making for the rest of the child's life, it's a decision you're making for a couple weeks or months. That made it easier for me to try.

Any other questions? It IS hard to deal with the whole process!

Megan
Megan
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Registered: 02-03-2007
Mon, 09-21-2009 - 10:19am
You are definitely on the right road-getting the entire diagnosis.
kids
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 09-21-2009 - 1:11pm
can you explain "comorbids"?
Momma to Sweet Pea, Baby Cheeks, Snuggle Bug and Little Guy
Momma to Sweet Pea, Baby Cheeks, Snuggle Bug and Little Guy
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Mon, 09-21-2009 - 8:32pm
Co-morbids would be other issues, that sometimes go along with ADHD. They can be anything from Learning Disabilities, to Bi Polar. Sometimes, but not always another problem is to blame for the symptoms, and the child does not have ADHD at all.

A child may HAVE ADHD, but it is not what they ARE. Never tell a child they ARE ADHD.