New here and stressed

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Registered: 11-20-2011
New here and stressed
Sun, 11-20-2011 - 1:53pm

Hello my name is Jennifer, I am 37 and have been married to my hubby for 12 yrs.

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Registered: 05-02-2004
Tue, 11-22-2011 - 11:28am
How frustrating all of this pressure on you! Perhaps a heart to heart with your friend is in order. She is giving you support that you dearly need right now, but perhaps you two can come up with some rules and consequences that both agree on for the kids when they are together.

Biting is a common frustration sign for kids. If you see something coming on that might lead to biting, then try to separate him beforehand. If it is with siblings, they are old enough to stop and move away too, and also need to understand that they need to be fair at all times. Biting is usually a stage, you will get through this. With speech therapy and signing, hopefully he will be able to express himself better shortly so he can yell instead of bite!

Your youngest sounds a lot like mine, with all of his issues. We have done speech therapy since he was 3, (he is now 9) and OT since 4. The best diagnosis that I have come up with is muscle delays that affect fine motor. The things that helped the most were speech therapy (and signing, which it sounds like you are doing, very good!) and vision therapy. We didn't get that until he was in 2nd grade due to insurance, and I was getting it because he reading as though he was dyslexic. But, it took care of most of the sensory issues and the just diagnosed ADHD as well. The OT does some of the same things as vision therapy, but not with the same intensity. My son was diagnosed with "lazy eye" which got him in with medical insurance. Because his eyes couldn't focus together, he was seeing everything in double vision and if he moved, then things were staying still. He didn't have fear of heights but I am suprized he didn't as I would have if it looked like the ground was moving around - I would want my feet on the ground at all times. But, different kids do present differently, and my kid wanted the sensation of the swing more than the feel of the floor, I think.

Hang in there, you certainly have more on your plate than most. I wish you lots of hugs for all you are going through right now!