New here....frustrated and sad!

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New here....frustrated and sad!
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Wed, 01-13-2010 - 3:44pm

Hi Ladies!

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Wed, 01-13-2010 - 5:02pm

HI, and welcome!


We had a 3 month wait to get into our Neuropsychologist in the beginning, but he is one of the very few in the area. Are you trying to get her into a Neuropsych or a Psychiatrist? SOmetimes Neuro's aren't as busy as Psych's, and may get in sooner with one.


Is she obsessive with food as in eating constantly? Or is she only eating some things? Some kids with ADHD have Sensory issues, and food can fall into that category. My DD hasn't worn socks in 10 years.....they "feel funny".


hang in there, it isn't the end of the world, and she will eventually get tested, and treated, if you choose meds.


Another questions? DID you have formal testing? Or just get meds from your GP? I would schedule myself for an evaluation also, you never know.

A child may HAVE ADHD, but it is not what they ARE. Never tell a child they ARE ADHD.

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Thu, 01-14-2010 - 9:53am

Well, waiting for diagnosis is pretty standard. I'd get on all the lists you can (sounds like Childrens' will come up first, anyhow?). We didn't have to wait, but that's because I went with our pediatrician, who specializes in ADHD diagnoses, and ours was *relatively* simple since we had all kinds of educational testing from the school eliminating that side of the possibility string. I wouldn't've been comfortable with it *without* all the testing that went in--I suppose you could say we did our waiting before, as it were.

I know the diagnosis can be really sad & stressful (heck, I was there)--but, I'm telling you, getting such a problem properly diagnosed is *really* awesome in the end. My kid is SO much more himself with the aid of the meds, when all of him isn't going into trying desperately to concentrate--he didn't succeed that well, but you could see how hard he was working at it!

If you haven't yet, in the waiting times, I'd start reading some of the ADHD books (the parenting ones, the ones that aren't just "these are the symptoms, go get medicine". Believe me, even medicated, you still have to *teach* all the principles of organization, etc. Using lists. Lists are what helps my kid enormously--but of course the type of list (words, pictures, etc.) tends to vary by kid. Show her how to work around the issue--if you're ADHD either a) you developed strategies of your own, figure out what they are, or b) you're entirely floundering (my spouse is ADHD & it sort of alternates between the two, depending on what we're talking about!).

Can't help much on the eating--opposite issue here, for years, trying to get enough IN, which was certainly ADHD related. My kid may have some appetite suppression from the meds, but when he started them, he suddenly ate more at dinner, etc.... Sensory stuff, though, that we have as well. Do remember that ADHD often comes with other things, so it could be an "as well" not just "part of" (oh, like telling the difference between those two is possible! LOL!)

Good luck, hope you get in for the diagnosis soon!!!

Megan
Megan
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Thu, 01-14-2010 - 2:17pm

Yes, it's very common for there to be a long wait to get in. We have Kaiser and had never had to wait long for any appt., but getting in with the psychiatrist took months. There was only one on their team who prescribed to young children, so we didn't have any other choice. We weren't pro-meds at that point, but wanted to have the option based on the psychiatrist's recommendation. If I recall correctly, we eventually got in earlier because of a cancellation. So, be persistent and keep checking in to see if they have any cancellations. If you time it right, you might get in earlier.

In the meantime, I agree with the pp about reading books about ADHD. Also, there's a really great magazine called ADDitude that is very useful and well written.

Good luck!
Michelle

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Fri, 01-15-2010 - 12:34pm
Welcome to the board. (((HUGS)))

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Mon, 01-18-2010 - 1:08pm

Thanks Ladies!

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Mon, 01-18-2010 - 9:24pm

I set limits for DD's food intake. She is that one strange kid who gets an appetite increase from meds, and everyone else gets the opposite.


She is allowed to eat as many fruits and veggies as she wants, I have them precut in ziplocs in the fridge. If she wants dressing or dip she is allowed ONE bag of veggies/fruit, and no more till a later snack time. There is no junk food in my house, because

A child may HAVE ADHD, but it is not what they ARE. Never tell a child they ARE ADHD.