New but yet old, re-intro

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Registered: 03-27-2003
New but yet old, re-intro
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Fri, 07-11-2003 - 8:08am
Hello ladies, how is everyone doing. I have not posted on this board in quite awhile.

I just wanted to give an update or rather a new introduction of myself.

My ds Jamil has ADHD and some other needs. This year was very hard for the both of us. Jamil is in the 2nd grade well now in the 3rd grade with only a 504 plan. He was two grades behind in math. My dh and I have tried many things to help him better understand math, but it's just not working. Each marking period his grades are below grade level. I spoke with his school and wanted him to do a 2-3 grade math class, but they told me that they do not offer anything like that. I then asked them to leave him back in the 2nd grade because he is not going to be able to handle 3rd grade. They also told me no because he does not fit the profile to be left in the 2nd grade. Well can someone tell me what the profile must be. Jamil reading level has always been above reading level, I notice that in the last two marking periods it dropped down to on grade level, which is not bad at all, but in a way it is.

He is taken concerta right now (18mg ER) which is working very well, he still has some tendency to be impolsive manily when it comes to his sister, that's another long story.

He is going back to the doctor to have another evl to see if all is good on the 16th. I am fighting so hard to get him an IEP because he really needs to have one. I feel that if he is in a smaller classroom as well it would make things much better for him. I have just gotten to the point of what in the world is going on with my son. I tell you some days I just feel like giving up when he starts acting out really bad or just crying for no reason. He sometimes cries for 2 hours for NOTHING. If you take something from him he will act out by crying or hitting his sitter or even breaking things. I try to talk to him about how he is feeling and he will just look at me with a blank stare. I sometimes find myself crying because of the things that he is going thur. He is a very sweet and loving child, but when he has his outbrust it's like WORLD HERE I COME.

Ok I am going on and on, thanks for listening to me

Rasheita

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Registered: 07-03-2003
Fri, 07-11-2003 - 10:18am
Hi - welcome back. I sure can relate to how you feel - it is so hard figuring out how to help them - especially when you feel you're doing everything you can and it feels that no one is on your side.

Take a breath and congratulate yourself for being a good mother.

The test of being a good parent is dealing with stuff like this and still moving forward and loving and helping your child. And - it sounds like that is what you are doing.

So - have you talked with your child's doctor about medical options? One of the kids at my son's school takes Ritalin and an anti-depresent - for similar issues. It helps with some of the other stuff you are talking about - like the crying for 2 hours.

I don't have a lot of experience with the school issue - but I do have a lot of experience working with (and for - I'm a social worker) big organizations with lots of rules and no way in. My only advice is to be a squeaky wheel. But, stay calm and stay firm - and keep insisting that your child get assistance. Has your child been tested for a learning disability, too? Does your school system have social workers who can advocate for you?

Maybe some other moms who have experience working with the schools can offer more concrete advice on this issue.

I'll be interested to hear back on how it is going.



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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 07-11-2003 - 12:09pm
Welcome back Rasheita! (I feel funny saying that, considering I'm so new here! LOL) I don't have any advice to offer except that I agree with being the 'squeaky wheel'. Keep pushing and don't give in; your child's education is at stake.

(((Hugs!)))

~Jodi

Mommy to Justin (7), Kyle (4) & Alicia (2)

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 07-16-2003 - 5:05pm
Thanks for the welcome back.

Today we went to the doctors to have him have more testing. They have finally put on paper that he has a learning disablity. I am so happy but yet a little upset. You never want your children to have any problems but I am glad that we know and we can get him some help now. Now the real work starts once we get back to school.

Rasheita

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