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Registered: 07-03-2004
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Fri, 02-05-2010 - 11:36am

Hi everyone.

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Fri, 02-05-2010 - 12:48pm

Hi, and welcome


it sounds like you have the ball rolling in the right direction. I would definetely pursue his issues.


I have heard of kids being assessed at 3-4, but not actually diagnosed until much older. Meds aren't approved for kids under 6. There is also such a wide range of nromal in kids this age that some Psych's won't diagnose till age 6-7. Our neuropsych won't even see kids under 5...


It may not be ADHD, several things come to mind from reading your post. Continue with therapy though, and the Psychologist...


A child may HAVE ADHD, but it is not what they ARE. Never tell a child they ARE ADHD.

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Registered: 07-03-2004
Fri, 02-05-2010 - 12:56pm

Thanks for the response.

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Fri, 02-05-2010 - 2:11pm

Your son is EXACTLY like our son at that age. The symptoms you've described are just the same. He was kicked out of preschool at 3 1/2, so I know just what you are going through. Not fun and it's extra difficult because your child is young and it's harder to be taken seriously about your concerns.

I'm so glad you found someone who will see your child at this age. It can make such a difference getting help from the medical community! We just didn't know what else to do as parents and got a lot of support from Kaiser's team. At three, we began with just some tips from a child psychologist for managing our son's behavior issues. When those didn't help, we moved on to a behavioral therapist. Still didn't get marked improvement and then it was time to talk to the psychiatrist about medications (this didn't happen until our son was kicked out of preschool). She wouldn't diagnose ADHD at a young age but said he had strong indicators of it. She later diagnosed it closer to age five when we started the real ADHD medications and they worked brilliantly.

We made the agonizing decision to try medication at age three because our son was a danger to others. He was hurting other kids, us and anyone he'd come in contact to who bothered him in any way. The psychiatrist said she only does medication at that young an age in extreme cases where the child is a danger to others. We started off with some non-ADHD medications called Clonidine and Tenex that are considered really safe with few side effects. They didn't do anything for our son and took forever to taper off so we could try something else.

The real change came when our son was put on Ritalin at age four ... will always remember the 4th of July that year because that day changed our lives. He was the same spunky child, but his behavior was completely normal -- no aggression, totally focused, energetic but not hyper. The decision to try medication is not an easy one, but I can tell you from experience it's not a cop out and it can make such an improvement ... you're helping your child's dopamine levels in the brain be where they need to be. Just like glasses for someone who doesn't see well.

Best of luck to you as you begin this process!
Michelle

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Registered: 07-03-2004
Sat, 02-06-2010 - 11:42am

Michelle,


Thank you for responding!

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Registered: 04-19-2007
Mon, 02-08-2010 - 9:05am

I'm sorry if my response is really inappropriate.


But from reading your post and although I'm not a doctor, but from personal and professional experience, I think your doctor might be on the right track for your son to be on the spectrum for autism.


Not saying he doesn't have ADHD too, or just ADHD or something else.


Keep truckin' mama, you'll get there.


And I know a lot of AWESOME kids with all sorts of challenges!


And he's a cutie!


I hope you find some answers, I know how hard it is.


My son was horrendous when he was smaller. So I feel your frustration.


School kept telling me they thought he was on the spectrum in JK, it was such a hard time.


It will look up. Keep it up!


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Registered: 07-03-2004
Thu, 02-11-2010 - 12:01pm

I've been trying to read up on autism lately....and a lot of the symptoms specified there match him , just as a lot of the symptoms for adhd did as well.

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Registered: 04-19-2007
Thu, 02-11-2010 - 4:29pm

It's because the symptoms overlap, sweetheart.


I truly hope you find the answers you need.


I really feel for you. xo

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Registered: 07-03-2004
Sat, 02-13-2010 - 10:24pm

Thanks.

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Registered: 11-10-2003
Sun, 02-14-2010 - 9:54am
Great advice so far. I would just like to add that after you get the report from the Psychologist, I would go back to the School District and see if you can get more services. There may be a Developmental Preschool program that he would qualify for. School districts have the responsibility for children aged 3-5 who have special needs and meet particular guidelines. I would also mention to the Psychologist that you are going to be going back to the school and would appreciate that the report recommends placement in a "developmental" program if the Psychologist agrees. Let us know how things go.
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Registered: 07-03-2004
Tue, 02-16-2010 - 7:11pm

Thanks.


We haven't done anything thru our school district yet.

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