Is this normal?

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Registered: 08-28-2009
Is this normal?
Fri, 08-28-2009 - 10:16am

My son is 10-1/2 years old.


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Registered: 02-03-2007
Fri, 08-28-2009 - 11:14am

Completely normal-at least in our house, where we deal with both ADHD & ODD also.

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Fri, 08-28-2009 - 1:47pm

You've pretty much described every morning with our six year old. His meds don't kick in for an hour, so getting him ready in the morning is excruciating. I have to be the total helicopter parent, making sure every little thing gets done and even then, it takes about 10 nagging sessions for each thing to actually get done. I might as well create an audio tape: "Time to brush your teeth, please go brush your teeth, brush your teeth, did you brush your teeth yet, get upstairs and brush your teeth, brush your teeth NOW ... put your clothes on, put your clothes one, please put your clothes on, put your clothes on NOW ..." Meanwhile, his three year old sister eagerly takes her pajamas off, puts clothes on, brushes her teeth and is ready for the day long before her older brother. Thank goodness she's independent or I would have to be committed.

I honestly have no expectations that this will improve over time. He's always been extremely dependent and scattered. I assume much of it is the ADHD and the other part is being a boy.


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Registered: 08-28-2009
Fri, 08-28-2009 - 9:03pm

Thanks so much for your responses.

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Registered: 03-04-2009
Sat, 08-29-2009 - 10:48am

My DS is 6 1/2 and we have had the exact same routine every morning since I can remember and i still have to tell him what to do step by step each day. I used to think it was because he wasn't a "morning person" (like me) and that he just needed time to wake up.


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Registered: 10-09-2004
Tue, 09-01-2009 - 10:53am
My DS will forget some tasks, but not all tasks. Generally, he gets dressed because it is too cold not to.
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Wed, 09-02-2009 - 5:08pm
I do the exact same thing about brushing teeth every morning. My DD is 9 years old and I tell her one thing at a time to do each morning. It is the same exact thing every day. Go to the bathroom, put on clothes (don't forget underwear!!) brush hair, brush teeth, put on shoes. It always seems to take mutlipule reminders for each task, but the teeth brushing is the worst! Just know you are not alone and we are all doing the same thing each morning. I may try to picture board mentioned in another post. Who knows, it just might work.


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Thu, 09-03-2009 - 11:25am



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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 09-03-2009 - 4:09pm
Hi, this is something you might want to consider and ask your dr. about.
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Registered: 09-04-2009
Sat, 09-05-2009 - 5:32am

just finised reading thease posts,

and they all sound just like my 6 yr old son.

if im not giveing him step by step instructions, hes mind goes on to someting else, like goin in to is sisters room to mess with her stuff!!

if i leave im to get dressed, after laying all is clotes out,

then almost everything get put on back to front, es sock are always upside down. with the heel part on topof hes foot,

I can always tell when hes had p.e at school, he comes home, back to front, usualy with somebody elses clothes on!!!!

and looses jackets all the time!!! before the summer ols he brought home 5 jackets, that ad all been left at scool.

lucky my daugter is at the same school, but this is her last year there. so after that he wont have her to remind him to bring, hes jumper,jacket and bookbag home!!!!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 09-11-2009 - 11:31pm

Yup. That pretty much describes my 12.5 yo 7th grader. Some mornings I even have to tell him to pee!

I think I'm going to devise a reward chart whereby he has to earn his priviledges (tv, playstation, etc) by earning points for doing what's expected of him during the day. Like peeing.

Cindy, mom to

Chris, 12/96, ADHD and sensory issues

Ryan, 10/99

and Meagan, 10/02