Not sure what to do

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Registered: 07-15-2003
Not sure what to do
Thu, 08-21-2003 - 4:22pm
Hi, I don't post here, but I am at my ropes end with my seven year old nephew. I have become very close with my sister, his mother, over the years although we haven't always been.

Brody has always been a difficult child. If he was at the bottom of steps, and he didn't want to come up, he would just stand there and scream at the top of his lungs.

I am trying to come across unbiased, because (and I am sure you will all hate me for this) I don't particularily like him. I know that is such a terrible thing to say. I love him, but don't really like him does that make sense? I have three other nephews, two from my brother and one three year old that is a brother to Brody (Logan). Logan is starting to get some of his habits.

Okay, back track a bit. Brody has been diagnosed with ADHD, has epilepsy, and some learning disabilities. But on top of that, as if that is not enough, he has been able to get away with pretty much anything and everything. Like is he doesn't want food, he will just spit it out on the floor. My sister will get mad, but nothing is done about it.

Now I don't have kids, and I am the youngest of my siblings. I was totally ignored, and I feel like Logan is being ignored and this really upsets me because I am VERY close with Logan.

My mom, her boyfriend, my dad, his girlfriend, my brother and sister in law and myself all feel this way.

I don't know what to do!

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Thu, 08-21-2003 - 4:52pm
You may want to try compassion. I know that is the thing I most want from my sisters and brother. To be honest, I just don't like it when they try to tell me what I should be doing, what I haven't done, or what I need to do in the future. But I do really like it when they point out my children's strengths, or when they offer an ear to listen to me whine and ramble. I love it when they point out what I'm doing that is good.

With serenity, accept your sister and nephews, as they are, no stings attached.

With courage, try to change your opinion of the nephew you don't like, we all have redeemable qualities.

Have wisdom to know your boundaries and know the power of unconditional love, and to realize you don't know what it is like to be her.