Please help! Medication issue!

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Please help! Medication issue!
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Sun, 12-13-2009 - 8:33am
We started on ritain la which was switched to Focalin XR when we were not getting long enough effect. SInce switching getting DD to meds has been a complete night. We took her off the xr and gave her regular focalin two tmes a day but the rebound effect was too intense so we switched to concerta and she has been refusing to take. Last week had to bring the meds to school to be given by nurse. She is 6 and does not understand the benefits. She keeps saying she will control behavior. This is the only time that she is opposistional-there is

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Registered: 02-14-2007
Tue, 12-15-2009 - 3:54pm

I'm sorry you feel this board is not giving you support - but everyone here basically BTDT


When kids understand - especially ADHD kids - what is expected of them and the reasons why - they will respond but it can take longer than you expect


I told my 5 1/2 (many years ago) that he had ADHD - he didn't understand the initials - but he understood the meaning


This board is supportive and everyone will give you their ideas that worked for them - find one that works for you


We will help you - okay

Denise

Denise

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Tue, 12-15-2009 - 2:50pm

Hi!


What works for us is that we don't give Nick a choice, we have explained why he takes his meds, he is on both Zoloft, Concerta and Clonidine. He takes pills on the morning and evening.

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Christine

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Tue, 12-15-2009 - 12:46am
I believe the best way to get things done is to be very matter of fact, and brook no nonsense. No yelling OR begging from the parents. Say: Sit down NOW. Open your mouth NOW. Put em in headlock and get going. I don't hurt them, but I don't sit too long waiting for them to compose themselves, or do what they've been told. The longer they think about something, or think they have an OPTION, they will carry on, & make themselves distraught. I think too many people over ask, and over explain. The kid is too young to be swayed by reasoning with her. Hell, at 16 my kids still weren't swayed by a long dissertation. They responded MUCH better to immediate action, and immediate consequences. If you say "Clean your room" and ten minutes later they are still on the computer, or are watching TV, or are on the phone, do not yell or nag or explain that Mom cannot do everything. Just turn off the TV, close the computer and unplug the phone. Take child by the ear, walk them into their room, and say "Clean it NOW. If you don't have it cleaned in one hour, *I* will clean it." In one hour, if there has not been SOME effort, walk in with a LARGE green garbage bag, and everything not in it's place goes into the bag.
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Mon, 12-14-2009 - 9:49pm

I am sorry that you feel that way, it was not intentional. I would sit her down and explain to her that the meds help her learn, and she needs them to socialize with her peers. As a social worker I am sure you understand how important social skills are to kids.


Have you seen the Phoebe Flowers books? They are about a girl her age who has ADHD, and the problems and issues that go along with it, all written pretty similar to the Junie

A child may HAVE ADHD, but it is not what they ARE. Never tell a child they ARE ADHD.

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Mon, 12-14-2009 - 8:41pm
I am a social worker who works with at risk kids and
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Mon, 12-14-2009 - 8:39pm

I never believed in bribery for meds

Denise

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Mon, 12-14-2009 - 8:34pm
Even with anxiety - you have to do it - she WILL live thru this and don't cater to every need - you can't be there every moment - and she needs to learn thru therapy how to deal with the anxiety

Denise

Denise

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Mon, 12-14-2009 - 8:31pm

You are in a pickle - it sounds like she is using words that you have used like "control"

Denise

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Mon, 12-14-2009 - 5:22pm
I have tried it all. bribery, threatening, talking with her. SHe took the medicine today the medicine with a little resistant. Hopefully we will continue on a good note.
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Mon, 12-14-2009 - 9:36am

Have you tried bribery yet?

Sticker chart where you get a sticker for taking the pill & after X times, you get a reward (extra bedtime stories, whatever works for your kid)?

"Practice" taking pills by using mini M&M's or tictacs?

I'd start by having a conversation with her NOT at pill time about the situation. What does she think will help? You make it really clear that "not taking" isn't an option, and that she isn't having to take these pills because she's doing something wrong (the way you phrased what she said sounded like she might be taking it that way, if that makes sense?). So, how can you both work together to make it easier?

Good luck!

Megan
Megan

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