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|Fri, 11-20-2009 - 6:31pm|
I believe my 9 yo SS is ADHD. And it seems like his behavior has gotten worse over the past year (not sure if it's this or because his real mother popped back into the picture at the same time, or a combo of both).
Either way here are some of his behaviors:
-Inability to sit still -fidgeting all the time, in the car at the table. He will get up 5 + times to go do something, sometimes a simple hug to his father who is in the kitchen. It takes him about an hour to eat because he's usually on the floor rolling around. He never sits squarely on the seat, he's always hanging halfway off. Both his father and I have tried to correct him, everyday.
-He interrupts. I know this is common with chidlren, but after 5 years of correcting him, I would think that he would learn. We have done the ignoring attitude, the talk afterwards, and ashamed to say, the yelling for interrupting.
-When my husband and I are talking, he will also burst out with an answer that he has no idea what he is talking about. Just 10 minutes ago my husband asked me what time we went to bed last night. Before I could answer SS blurts "4AM!". We are like what are you talking about... he says I don't know.
-He rushes through homework. This has been his biggest pitfall in school. His teacher, DH and I all tell him to slow down. And because he rushes he makes careless mistakes. He tells us that he just wants to get it over with. We then tell him that he has to do it over again because of the mistakes.
-He is unable to be specific or has an eye for detail.
-He will stop homework for some reason that he is either not asked about or part of. He seems to have his mind wondering instead of focusing on his work, for example.
-We will give him directions on something and he is unable to follow them (BIG ONE!)
He just seems very all over the place. It's hard to deal with him sometimes because I feel that after 5 years of consistency and it hasn't done anything, what could be the problem. I will tell him something and 5 seconds (no joke) he forgets or doesn't remember being told that.
Does this sound like ADHD?
He has also gotten into trouble at school, not by his teachers but by fighting. This past week he was expelled from class for brandishing a weapon (I KNOW, we are freakin' out!). So we have a therapist lined up for the 30th. I was thinking of bringing this up.
He has expressed to me that he wants his mother to spend more time with him, and we have relayed that message to her (2nd time actually). This second time seems to be doing the trick, but I'm not sure if it's because of him being in trouble and now seeing a therapist, or if it's because court is in 2 weeks and she's trying to butter up the judge.
Please help! Thanks!!!