PPT Follow-Up Questions

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PPT Follow-Up Questions
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Mon, 03-29-2010 - 5:44pm

For the past several weeks my son who is almost 5 1/2 was being evaluated by the school and I got the reports on Friday; I have been in a trance ever since, however, the follow-up PPT meeting is tomorrow morning at 9am.

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Mon, 04-05-2010 - 11:35am
Lol, Megan, I love that!
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Mon, 04-05-2010 - 11:23am
No the school does not have social classes, but the psychologist wants to setup a social group for him, where he will be with two or three other kids from his class, to address his social limitations.
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Mon, 04-05-2010 - 11:10am

Out...well, my ADHDer went IEP->504->504 middle school->IEP middle school (and thank goodness they didn't make the getting-IEP-again thing hard!). My other kid went IEP->out. "Out" is easy (look at it this way, the school system is only too pleased to STOP paying extra $$ for your kid ;} ). OK, there may be some parents out there who have horror stories about NOT letting the kid out of special ed, but frankly, I've not read them, nor heard them in real life (though I'm sure I could google & find one!). All it took for us was having to sign a form, just like after any IEP meeting, where you sign any changes into effect (or don't, I suppose, but we've never needed to protest them!).

Another plus on the label is that as he changes his needs--adds, subtracts or just alters--you have the regular IEP/504 meetings to talk about them in AND you can call one whenever you need to.

Denial's a lovely river, isn't it? And I'm so there with you sometimes (just not THIS month ;} ).

Megan
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Fri, 04-02-2010 - 7:17pm

That looks like the right board for IEPs.

Looking over those scores, they had nothing to say that was positive??? He is a year ahead in some of those areas!

Social interactions...well, that was part of the reason why I got my son evaluated, I thought maybe high functioning autism because he is so far behind socially (1 to 2 years in my estimation.) I knew my son was going to have issues in school because of his inability to follow directions, sit still and interact properly. But would would they let him be in remedial prek classes so that he could get some experience in small groups before going on to the big classes? No, he was ahead academically. All they would do is allow him to be in Head Start...which was in Spanish, and we were having a hard time with English! And then they gave him to the kinder teacher that had 8 boys transfer out of the class the first 2 weeks when my daughter was in there...and no tolerance for special needs and even made fun of a boy with speech issues like my son! Which, is why we are homeschooling....

But any how, in my readings on past posts on this board and internet and few books I have gotten so far, apparently social lagging is common for ADHD kids. Not something that is mentioned in that terms, but looking over your son's scores, that seems to be the case with him too. Is the school doing anything to address this? Some schools do have classes for social issues and helping kids deal appropriately, be it shyness or the opposite.

With my son we do limited classes (a couple of hours a week) and they are multi-age classes, so while he is about the oldest, it is ok if he acts younger. (I have to tell him to Which, thinking about it some, if your school has multi-grade classrooms, it may be a way for him to fit in and relate a bit more with the kids who are a year or two younger, without getting held back. Doesn't really help this year, but may be an option for next year.

Edited to add because I forgot: Don't sell yourself or your son short! The efforts that you and your husband are doing are not worthless, and I certainly hope that our kids are not doomed to be behind all their lives! Being trained in doing stuff is certainly a help, but even untrained but willing to educate themselves parents can make a world of difference. With my son, he, I, brother,sister and dad, all know that he learns differently. It doesn't mean that he can't learn, it just take a different amount of effort than it does for the rest of us. Learning to work hard for achievement is a good thing - I actually worry more about my daughter who learning comes so easy that she doesn't have to try hard...until the subject is hard - then she doesn't know what to do. Everything is hard for my son...so he gives it his all and does the best that he is able. I trust that he will do all the things he wants, it just may be on a different time line than most kids.




Edited 4/2/2010 7:32 pm ET by treddlesewingmachine
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Fri, 04-02-2010 - 1:42pm

Thanks a lot for all your support and information, I really appreciate it.

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Fri, 04-02-2010 - 12:45pm
Thanks alot Megan, for sharing.
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Thu, 04-01-2010 - 2:31pm

You are welcome! It IS hard going through the process, especially at first. I am not sure about refusing stuff later on - I think that you can, but the team has to agree that the goals have been met. That said, if they want to change the goals, they can't do it unless everyone agrees - including you, which means they go with the plan that you currently have. If you want to change things, you can call a meeting any time you want (every two weeks if needed, but they may not like that much) and can work toward a plan that best fits your child's needs. I have had goals changed in my son's IEP with just the speech therapist writing a new goal and I sign it - no need for the whole team because it was a specific area. A behavior plan, for instance, might be different as more people would need to be involved. You may want to check out the Ivillage special education board for more information too.

As far as how this effects things down the road, the only issue I had was when I was in CA and was thinking that I wanted my son to go to a charter school that was out of my district. The school said they would love to have my son, but couldn't provided the speech and OT that he needed. We did something different anyhow, and it has worked out fine.

Not having services? Well, for some kids stigma does get attached when they are leaving the room to do resource or having extra time for a test, or whatever - the teacher should be alert to this so that she/he can stop any teasing right away and educate the kids about learning differences. So I can understand the concern. Overall, I think it would be better to have on the record a diagnosis than to have on the record that the child is unruly or bad. Even if what is provided doesn't work, it gives the appearance that the teachers, parents and child are working to try to make things better.

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Wed, 03-31-2010 - 12:12pm

I'm glad you got it changed, then, well done! I didn't find it very hard to consent to Special Ed.--I really don't think it carries much of a stigma with actual educators (ignorant parents are, of course, idiots, so you ignore them ;}). My feeling is that if my kids need the help & it's being offered for FREE, at SCHOOL, why wouldn't I go for it?

I've had friends who decided to just go with verbal accomodations for one of their kids (not ADHD, different issues); what I saw was that there were good years & bad years, of course, like for any kid. But THEY had no hammer when the teachers didn't pay attention to the accomodations. Not that I've ever needed to use it, because our teachers are too bright to ignore that I have it, but that's what being really special ed gives you: a hammer to use on the school/admin when they are being stupid, if ever.

If you think he won't need help for very long, all the better--get all the help you can now, and aim for that goal!

Seriously, why wouldn't you do the Special Ed thing?

Megan
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Tue, 03-30-2010 - 5:13pm
Thanks a lot Megan, that makes sense.
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Tue, 03-30-2010 - 4:30pm
Thanks a lot.

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