Pulling Kevin off meds

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Pulling Kevin off meds
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Mon, 06-23-2003 - 6:16am
I wish I could say that I've debated this, and discussed it with the doc and DH, and mutually we came to this decision, but in all honesty, I'm being totally rash and not thinking in all of this, although I have 'thought about' this for some time. Saturday was the day from hell, and I'll spare you the details but let's just say it was pretty bad. And, it dawned on me that the meds aren't helping him. Well, maybe they are, but I can't see it. Kevin has ADHD/ODD and is on stimulants for the ADHD. BUT, his ADHD is the impulsivity type (which coinsides with the ODD) and it's not attention that's a problem, and he's not hyper. Pre-meds, he did just fine in school. Well, a few impulsivity issues, but he paid attention, did his work, didn't bother anyone ... so meds really didn't affect his school performance. And, he's in camp which continues to be a structured environment ... and I think he'll be o.k. He's on Ritalin LA (25 mg in the a.m.) + 5 mg of Focalin in the afternoon to get him through his tough time of day (which is when he's home.) Well, if his behaviors are crappy ON meds, why is he on them? So, starting yesterday, I stopped. I planned on stopping the Ritalin LA, and then weaning him off the Focalin. But, he was with DH in the afternoon and they didn't get home 'til about 5:00 (too late for a pill) so he's had nothing. Now, that was only day #1 and too early to say, but so far, he's been great. He's been cooperative and compliant and (dare I say?) pleasant to be around. He was a little hyper (not bouncing off the walls, but talkative.) His appetite has increased (not such a bad thing.) Last night, he was playing cards with DH and my house was quiet... except for his laughter. (How long has it been since I heard him laugh? Usually, there's such anger in his voice.) I'm sure I'm speaking too soon in saying I'm making the right decision, but I just want him to have a break. He did wonderfully on the Concerta for 16 months. But, since they changed that, it's not been the same. Not horrible, but not great. SO, if it's not 'great' then why bother? I think he needs a break, his system needs a break. Maybe we need him off meds so we can see that they really were benefitting him. Maybe he needs to be off them so he can understand why he's been on them ('cause he's totally convinced HE is fine and WE have a problem.) And, I totally hate feeling like I'm using him as an experiment, but maybe that's what we need right now. All I know is that things haven't been going well and he's ON meds. So, I'm giving it a rest to see. Cross your fingers, say a prayer, and wish me luck!

Nancy

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Mon, 06-23-2003 - 7:44am
That was the first thing I noticed about Jamie when he stopped stimulant. I heard his laughter. Made me stop and think about the last time I actually heard him laugh.

Elspeth