Question about behaviour
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|Fri, 04-04-2003 - 6:34am|
Last night he was ready for bed and asked for something he couldn't have. (he wanted to go outside in his pjs and bare feet and look at the stars)
We tried diversion, etc...but it wasn't working, even suggested coat and boots, no go.
He spent the next hour in his bedroom screaming that no one wanted him, no one loved him and that he didn't want to be here anymore, that he hated us, "I don't understand why no one wants me, am I that bad" etc.....
He threw stuff around his room, broke a couple of his fav toys tore up a couple of books and then after an hour fell asleep sobbing.
He's only 4.5 and it breaks my heart to see him like this. His psychologist told us not to intervene when he gets like that, but is he really that sad??? does he believe what he is saying???
I guess it's kind of stupid, but I remember being his age, and if I made a mistake or got in trouble, I honestly thought that no one would love me ever again. Is it just part of the learning process to go through these black and white comparasins only to wake up the next morning to a Mum and Dad that does love you to confirm that you were wrong.
Half of me thinks it's just part of the learning process, the other part makes me want to go to his room and hug all the bad feelings away.