That river in Egypt!

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Registered: 04-02-2003
That river in Egypt!
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Tue, 02-12-2013 - 9:54pm

You know--DENIAL!!!  I am so frustrated with my DD right now, it's been several weeks since my grandson was officially dx'd, but only confirming what we "knew" for months.  This poor child is having such a rough time of it at school--coming home saying he's bad and stupid (this from a child who normally tests in the 90th percentile and above on standard tests) and that he should kill himself--all at age 6.  DD doesn't take it serious and is letting her mistrust of therapy, in general, to cloud her judgement in this--I've tried talking to her and she just flies off the handle, tells me he's not my son and to stay out of it.  If I thought they'd do anything, I'm to the point of hotlining her, but they're so slow to do anything on actual abuse calls I'm sure not getting a child therapy isn't going to rank very high on their list.  I'm doing all I can to reassure him, but his pain is so palpable at times.  I'm hoping to talk with my younger sister (whose son also has ADHD) later this week and hope she can convince DD to get him into the therapist ASAP.  In the meantime, anybody have any other ideas?

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Wed, 02-13-2013 - 3:34pm

I feel so bad for your grandson, that's not a good way to feel about yourself.    It's frustrating that your daughter can't see that.  Are you on good terms with anyone at his school, like his teacher or the principal?  Could you ask them to intervene, mention what he's saying and see if there is anything they can do?  The school psychologist might be able to work with him.  The other suggestion would be to talk with his pediatrician or whoever he'll be seeing for ADHD?  While they might not be able to discuss it with you, it's something they can bring up at his next appointment with his mom.  Maybe getting an objective third party view might help convince her?

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Wed, 02-13-2013 - 3:36pm
I wanted to add, keep giving him lots of love and attention, and let him know that he's a bright, wonderful little boy. He needs to know that it's the ADHD causing the problem, not him.