social events...soo not fun

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social events...soo not fun
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Mon, 04-06-2009 - 10:05am

My husband and I are both from large families, so we have a lot of family gatherings to attend.

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Mon, 04-06-2009 - 10:24am

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They usually do! He won't be 4 forever, LOL! My DS began medication when he was 6, and while I didn't usually medicate unless there was school, I would give him his meds before a large social gathering.

He's turning 12 soon and has gained a lot of control over the hyperactivity and impulsivity. I still give him meds for social functions (and school, of course), but only because I want him to have the best time possible.

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Mon, 04-06-2009 - 11:18am
Thanks for the input!
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Mon, 04-06-2009 - 12:18pm

We used to have problems at large family gatherings when DD was younger. She is 11 now, and it does get better. She has matured with age, and continues to be better and better as the months go by.


I personally would not use meds for a 4yo,since they are not tested

A child may HAVE ADHD, but it is not what they ARE. Never tell a child they ARE ADHD.

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Mon, 04-06-2009 - 1:03pm
Thanks for
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Mon, 04-06-2009 - 3:31pm

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I'm not sure that I would have medicated my DS at 4, but that's just me. I might have opted instead, in the situation where we're attending a social function, to cut the visit short (stay an hour or two rather than a whole day or evening). That way we get to visit but the child doesn't get too overstimulated, and we parents don't get too exhausted chasing after him.

The side effects of the meds caused my DS' appetite to diminish. Right now, it's a struggle to keep my almost 12 yo's weight from falling below 65 lbs (though, he's one of the shorter kids in his class). Not all kids experience this side effect but because my son does I don't take medicating him lightly...there has to be a really good reason.

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Mon, 04-06-2009 - 10:03pm

My son started meds at 5 1/2 which got him thru kindergarten and reading.


I'm not crazy about 4yrs - I think more time is needed - not that they wouldn't help but I would rather have a neuro full exam before making a decision based on a ped - i believe that is what you said.


I remember when I use to take my son from 2-4yrs old to nursury/pre=k and I had to check in his antibiotics - there were soooo many kids on ritalyn I was shocked.


i was very careful before I started meds


Good luck

Denise


Denise

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Tue, 04-07-2009 - 9:25am

In all honesty, at *our* family gatherings, most of the people with a kid of 4 are taking turns watching them. OK, maybe not if they are all watching TV, but playing, especially outside, yes. And those kids aren't ADHD. So, I'd say it's pretty normal--not the *extent* of behaviors you're seeing, but the watching bit. Is your kid the youngest? (not including lap babies, of course!)

Yes, my kid got more able to cope with crowds with time. Wish I could give better advice--for some things, we had special things the kid could do during 'em. Special book, new movie, special toy, that kind of thing.

Megan
Megan
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Wed, 04-08-2009 - 9:15am

Hi Megan,

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Wed, 04-08-2009 - 9:26am

How did your son do in preschool?

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Registered: 10-01-2007
Wed, 04-08-2009 - 10:03am
Itoo believe 4 is too young to medicate unless it is sooo bad they cannot function. We also started meds around7-8 years old when school became an issue, I wished sometimes I would have started at 5 or 6 because of preschool and Kindergarten was hard for him.

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