Son having issues at school- need help

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Registered: 12-10-2009
Son having issues at school- need help
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Thu, 12-10-2009 - 1:57pm
My son is in kindergarten, and for a few years my husband and I have felt he has ADHD. My husband suffers from it and had a very difficult time in school, and sure enough, my son seems to be having the same issues my husband did. My son is a very loving boy but has a tough time concentrating, sitting still and some problems with spontaneous aggression (hitting friend in chest, stepping on a child's hand, yanking a child's arm). The teacher has called his behavior "violent", put him at a table all alone in class and has restricted his recess. This child needs to get his energy out! We follow the Feingold diet with him, give him supplements (fish oil, magnesium, zinc, B6 and the homeopathic Attend). We are seeing improvements but incidents are still occurring. The pediatrician doesn't want to test him yet because of his age. The teacher seems fed up with him and has him labeled as a problem child. BTW- academically he's right on target. My question is- what can I do to help him more? His self-esteem is so low now it's sad. I don't know what I can say to this teacher anymore and it's causing tension between us. ANY advice would be so appreciated.
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Sat, 12-12-2009 - 12:59pm
Hi, this blog has alot of fluff, but no solid research to back it up. Biofeedback, and caffeine are not treatments that have been proven to work. Meds, therapy, and counseling are . The BEST thing is to get a SOLID diagnosis first, and go from there wiht a qualified Psychiatrist, not a Ped or a GP.

A child may HAVE ADHD, but it is not what they ARE. Never tell a child they ARE ADHD.

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Registered: 12-03-1999
Fri, 12-11-2009 - 9:17pm
Denise is right on target! Parents who are new to AD/HD, parents who don't want to "drug" their kids, are so susceptible to people flogging these unproven "treatments". I know other people who spent money they DID NOT HAVE on controversial treatments, only to see the money go up in smoke, and the kids no better off than before. And that's the BEST case scenario.
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Registered: 02-14-2007
Fri, 12-11-2009 - 5:30pm

I wish you would be a little more careful on what you recommend - there are a lot of new people here everyday - and spending monies that are not necesarily right for each kid - everything should go thru the treating doctor and not every web site that suggests everything.


and I did biofeed - it cost a fortune - it didn't last - they will sell you a package and have tons of "satisfied customers".


Thank you

Denise

Denise

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Registered: 12-03-1999
Fri, 12-11-2009 - 3:21pm

Once again I must caution people to NOT embark upon controversial or unproven treatments until they have investigated them THOROUGHLY, and also run them by your Psychiatrist, to get an MD's opinion. And, altho there is SOME indication that biofeedback can help SOME children WHILE THEY ARE DOING IT, there are no studies of what happens if the treatments are discontinued, or if the benefit lasts. In addition, the program requires about 20 treatment per month--read ONCE PER WEEKDAY--at a cost of at least $100 PER TREATMENT, which is NOT covered by insurance.

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Registered: 11-25-2009
Fri, 12-11-2009 - 11:23am

Hi!

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Registered: 02-14-2007
Thu, 12-10-2009 - 7:29pm

I'd get the testing started now - teachers will make your life misrable and you need a diag to get any help from the school system


My son was 5 1/2 when diag

Denise

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Thu, 12-10-2009 - 3:19pm

HI, and welcome


It certainly sounds like he has somthing going on, but what is the question. Instead of speaking to your ped about it, ask for a Referral to a Neuropsychologist, since your Ped

A child may HAVE ADHD, but it is not what they ARE. Never tell a child they ARE ADHD.