Son just diaganosed with ADHD

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Registered: 12-11-2010
Son just diaganosed with ADHD
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Tue, 12-14-2010 - 11:02pm

Hi, I'm Teresa and I'm new to this particular board. I have been married for 9 years and my husband is a police officer and I am a certified teacher. we have two kids, our daughter is 8 and our son is 5 1/2. My son was just diagnosed with ADHD although we already knew he had it, just needed the Dr to say so. My husband was diagnosed as a child and I was diagnosed with inactive adult add in college. With both of us having a form of it we knew that it was likely our kids would as well.

I do have to say that I would almost rather deal with the type I have as opposed to the agressive type my son has. When he gets frustrated or upset he doesn't know how to deal with it so he lashes out, usually violently. It has become a problem at school so I took him to his peditrician last week and she fully agreed with me about it being ADHD...if he is alone with one toy or set of toys (legos) he is perfectly happy, but if you throw another set of toys, tv, his sister wanting to play with him or anything else into the mix then you can watch the battle he's going through in his head play out on his face and in is actions.

We went to see the behavior specialist today and she also agreed after she looked over the Vanderbilts the pediatrician gave me last week.

We now have him on the Daytrana patch (starting it in the morning) and everyone I have talked to seems to agree that Christmas break is a good time to start so his body can get used to it. I really hope this treatment works. My husband is apprehensive about medicating our son but I have to remind him that this isn't 25 years ago when he was the experimental age for the meds, and that the good, truly good and understanding teachers that I will fight to have him in their classes will not label him but rather work with him..and personally I would (as a mom and a teacher) rather have him known to have ADHD rather than have him known and treated as the discipline problem.

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Registered: 04-19-2008
Wed, 12-15-2010 - 9:31am

I agree that starting meds over the Holiday Break is a good idea, but keep in mind not all meds work for all kids. Daytrana takes 2-2.5 hours to begin working,worn for 9 hours(

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Registered: 12-11-2010
Wed, 12-15-2010 - 10:50am

The behavior specialist we saw is also a psychologist and works specifically with his pediatrician who has seen him since birth. When I took him to the pedi last week to discuss this path with her he was in the middle of a major meltdown when she came into the room just because he couldn't understand why, out of the 10 toys in the room, that the one toy he wanted to play with was broken and he couldn't have it. When he gets frustrated he lashes out kicking, hitting, biting...but as soon as he calms down he knows what he was doing is wrong and immediately apologizes. He never stops moving and takes up to 4 hours to fall asleep at night...forget naptime at school, it's all they can do just do get him to stay on his napmat.

When we saw the specialist yesterday she had about 20 toys for him to play with and he got frustrated again because he wanted them all and knew that he could only play with one at a time....we have all of his toys here at home in our room just to keep his frustration level down. We let him have one set at a time (either his legos, his cars, his animals) but not more than one set at a time as you can see the struggle to control himself playing out on his face. If he does happen to have them all out in his room I have to stay in his room with him and direct him in cleaning it up, starting with the biggest toys and moving to the smallest one at a time, step by step....just teaching him to focus himself is difficult. Family gatherings are a nightmare because there is so much going on that he can't handle it. We can get through sunday school but we can't get through church service because one he can't sit still that long, and two there are too many distractions.

If his pedi hadn't listened to my concerns I would be extremely worried about starting him on meds but since she does listen to us and has known him since birth and has seen his behavior over the years I completely trust her and the specialist. I know they will work with us to help him the best way we can.

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Registered: 03-25-2008
Wed, 12-15-2010 - 2:30pm

Just wanted to wish you good luck with the treatment! We had to start our son on medication when he was four because he was just like your son -- very aggressive. The first day on Ritalin was transforming. Extremely positive! He now takes a long-acting form of Ritalin called Concerta.

Don't be disappointed if Daytrana isn't the right fit (although hopefully it will be!). It can take some trial and error to find just the right medication and dosage but it's worth the effort. Our son went from being kicked out of preschool at three to receiving the highest possible marks academically AND behaviorally on his second grade report card. Medication really can be that good.

If you haven't already discovered these sites already, consider a subscription to ADDitude magazine and join CHADD. Both are super for information about living with ADHD.

Best of luck!

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Registered: 01-03-2011
Mon, 01-03-2011 - 10:54pm

Hi Theresa - I hope it's going well for you.