Teacher is clueless

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Registered: 07-11-2003
Teacher is clueless
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Tue, 05-26-2009 - 6:22pm

Hi,


I wrote about a month ago regarding my ADHD 11 yr old son who was punished by his teacher for doing his hw during indoor recess. He is on medication hw has always been a struggle and he was trying to do the right thing! The teacher gave him additional sentences for HW as a consequence for breaking a class rule he wasn't even aware of! She was well aware of the nightly struggle HW causes.


Anyway,recently he had a project that required a lot of research

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Registered: 01-19-2009
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 9:07am

My advice is hard to follow, but it's just to give this fight up. How many more weeks are there in the school year - just a few. If he's 11 then the grade is not going on his permanent record.

I would work with your son concerning his self-esteem and fairness. Make sure he understands that you know it isn't fair and you don't think his grade is correct. If he failed two parts, regrade them based on what you know about his work habits, and recalculate his grade based on them. Show him what grade you believe he should have gotten and tell him as far as you're concerned that's the grade he got.

Tell him he can practice his "people skills" with this teacher. Obviously, there's something wrong with her. She's a control freak of some sort. He's going to run into those types of people in his life. First of all, now he'll know to avoid them, and secondly, he might learn how to deal with them.

That probably doesn't help. My son had an absolute horrible teacher last year. She was grading my son down for things he had never been taught, not by her nor by anyone else! But this year he had a great teacher. So as long as your son won't have to have her again, I would just let it go. You're never going to change her, but hopefully over the summer she'll think about her behavior and make some changes. Supposedly that's what happened with my son's bad teacher (as a requirement for her to keep her job - she was bad).

If you really push this teacher she might come down even harder on your son. Yes, I know teachers aren't supposed to do that. But she's a bad teacher. It happens. Just let it go and help your son deal with it.

The big problem with your son is he might give up on school all together. You have to make sure he understands that she is a one-off bad teacher and you know it too. Make sure he knows you believe in him.

And plan a really big end of school party once he's free from her for good!




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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 05-27-2009 - 9:11am

Yeah, sounds like a teacher just not getting it. Yeeesh. OK, so why didn't the resource room help him? A big assignment like that, I'd've thought that was part of their job? Is it time to talk to the assistant principal again? If they start saying this isn't covered by your IEP, get it written in, of course--but it does sound like it OUGHT to have been covered by an IEP.

Do you have to deal with this teacher much longer? I know we have a month of school left, but lots of places don't. 11...are you changing schools soon? Either way, though, you need to make sure the necessary accomodations are in that IEP.

Megan
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