Trying to diagnois our five year old
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|Sun, 08-10-2003 - 11:05pm|
I have a five year old son who has more signs (actually all) of ODD than ADHD. We have lost two nanny's because of his behavior. He doesn't listen to me or my husband, or anyone who is around him on a daily basis who has to care for him.
I work from home, so I am in the house with my son and the nanny, and I hear the fighting going on all the time. Most of the time I have no other choice but to jump in. From there the problem just escalates. Then when the nanny leaves, during the time I can't wait to be with just him, he makes it miserable.
My poor nanny wants to plan trips out of the house with him, but most of the time he acts out of control and she either can't leave the house, or when they actually get to the activity, he is so bad she has to leave. He even made our trip to Disney World one big fight for five days!
We have tried all types of punishments, we have been consistent, we tried putting him on rigid schedules, and even "just let it flow" type of schedules. Nothing works. It's always a fight. I'm exhausted.
His preschool teacher tells me he is a smart, well behaved child in school. When I ask him why he behaves at school he tells me it is because "he doesn't know how the teacher will punish him". He starts full day kindergarden this year, so maybe his new teacher will see a different behavior then his part-time/3 day a week teacher did.
We just started seeing a child psychologist last week. I hope that she can provide us with some parenting skills to help us with these problems.
He has also been pooping his pants. Not a full blown out poop, but he doesn't want to take the time to go to the bathroom. When I ask him why he does it he says he didn't know it was coming. So he blantly lies to me about it.
If anyone has any advice to give me, I would greatly appreciate it.