Trying to help daughter and son

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Registered: 05-29-2009
Trying to help daughter and son
Fri, 05-29-2009 - 2:07pm

Well I was just dx'ed with ADD. My dd is 8 will be in 3rd grade in the fall. She was dx'ed about 4 months ago with ADD. We tried Ritilan and focalin but both caused headaches. We also found out that she had chronic sinus infection (about 6 months) and had her adnoids removed. Her headaches have gone away. She is having trouble focusing at school and is very unorganized. At home she is unorganized and has a very short temper. (a major drama Queen). Her teacher loves her. She said that she would be great in homeschool b/c she can focus better in quiet. Her class this yr is awful. She has trouble doing classwork and turning it in. Apparently this has been happening all year long but b/c she is a quiet little girl the teacher has let her slide. She can do the work.. when tested she is slightly above grad level. But next yr the work will be harder I'm not sure how to help her. I have lots of trouble with orginazation and creating structure. I have just started taking meds. I'm thinking of trying her on meds again and trying to get them worked out over the summer.

Andrew is 5yr old. He will be starting K this fall. He has sensory issues and goes to OT once a week. He also has ADHD. He is off the wall impulsive and needs stucture for disipline and routine. Which I am very bad at. He is seeing a psych and doen't want to medicate b/c of age. I would like to just try behavior management.

Any tips that can make our household run easy.. How to get them to do chore? What should I expect from them I know I cannot compare them to other peers or should I expcet that from them?



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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-29-2009 - 3:23pm
I have the same problems sherry so I have no solutions.
But I wanted to give you big hugs. I have ADD as well with a 7 yr old that is ADHD and a 4 yr old that prob is too.

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Fri, 05-29-2009 - 5:06pm

Hi, and welcome

Organize everything, and make a schedule. We have charts for homework, chores etc. Everything here runs on a spcific schedule and DD does well with that, she knows what to expect.

It sounds like your DD also has ADHD/innattentive type, my 11yo DD does too.

A child may HAVE ADHD, but it is not what they ARE. Never tell a child they ARE ADHD.

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Registered: 09-28-2004
Sat, 05-30-2009 - 4:28am


How bad is the behavior, alot of times it will get worse. my girlfriend has two adhd sons and they have a behavior specialist through the juvenile court its a good structured program

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 06-01-2009 - 11:33am

Do you think the meds just made the sinus infection headaches worse? OK, yes, if it were me, I'd be trying meds over the summer & see if you can find something.

Can YOU get a coach on creating the organization & structure? My spouse is ADHD & adding organization/structure helps a LOT for us, both adults & kids. Everything from ONE calendar--we use Google calendar & share it, to combined "to do" lists, which are usually Google Docs, stuff like that.

For the kids, at that age what worked best for mine was checklists--generally with pictures as well as words. It is a pain, often enough, to make them & make them specific enough (not "pack your knapsack", but "put your folder, lunchbox in your lunchbox"--and then you have the things that only happen once a week, like library books...). And then you have to go over 'em & check up on the kids for awhile--but eventually, mine could do it on their own. If we needed incentives, we gave 'em--for mine, extra electronics time is the favorite thing, but when younger, it tended to be extra story books at bed-time.

With my now-11 yr old, we spend a bunch of time teaching time management--when & how to do your homework, that kind of thing.

My own personal favorite organizing tricks...list (mine!) shouldn't be too long & they should be *REALLY* specific--no list item should really mean a bunch of different things--like, go to store, buy X for project, get all the things together for the project, find a time slot where kid can do project with me, then do project. Not simply "bake cookies" (or whatever!). If you see what I mean?