We have an offical Diagnosis

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We have an offical Diagnosis
Thu, 01-07-2010 - 1:08pm

So, we have an official diagnosis of ADHD and now we are going back to our PED for consult and medication. We've picked up a couple of books as well, "Parenting Children with ADHD: 10 lessons that medicine cannot teach" is one that's supposed to be pretty good.

I'll be pushing for other tests to eliminate any other medical conditions that could be the cause of what we're seeing but it's doubtful that it's anything other than ADHD.

So.....just an update, I guess, on where we are in the process. It does seem overwhelming at times when considering all the work we have ahead of us but, it's what's got to be done.

Anyone else read this book? If so, thoughts?

I forgot to include another question.

When the decision is made to use medication, how do you discuss this with the child? We have always taken the up front and honest approach with our boy and I would like to be able to tell him what's really going on without making him feel bad about himself. Anyone willing to share their experiences?



Edited 1/7/2010 3:01 pm ET by akrohana
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Thu, 01-07-2010 - 2:59pm

Great that you got a diagnosis, but try seeing a Psychiatrist for meds instead? Better all around, especially with a new DX. Peds aren't qualified usually to rx meds, and psychs know so much more about the meds.

I vaguely remember reading that book, and I believe it was good. There are so many sometimes they run together.

A child may HAVE ADHD, but it is not what they ARE. Never tell a child they ARE ADHD.

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Thu, 01-07-2010 - 4:30pm

Ped do not have the expertise for describing these kinds of meds - you do need a psych - but every parent has a different way of telling their kids - you have to do what feels right for you

For me - at 5yrs old - I told my son what he had and what as parents we could do to help him



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Fri, 01-08-2010 - 12:43pm

Our pediatrician

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Fri, 01-08-2010 - 10:59pm
Since Nathan has the Patch, he is very aware of it all of the time. We didn't really explain to him that he has the ADHD, just that we know that he is a very smart boy and that he is a good boy and this patch will just help him be even nicer. I was very nervous when we got a diagnosis, but now I have a sense of relief. I will be looking into those books that you suggested. For me it's nice to know that I have a place to start looking for help for my son.

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Tue, 01-12-2010 - 10:06am

That is a very good way to explain the need for medication. We have never told our son that he has ADHD either but he knows that his brain works differently and that he needs help to do better and get along in school. He knows the meds make him "feel better inside" (his words). I am sure he has heard me discussing his ADHD with others and he is pretty smart. The person who is always wondering why he gets meds and she doesn't is my 5 y.o. daughter... she is a little hypochondriac so to her it's "not fair." lol...


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Fri, 02-12-2010 - 2:48pm

A little update.

We've had all the testing done to eliminate the possibility of another medical condition.

We've hooked up with a place here in Portland called The Children's Program.


We've had our initial consult and our boy has his appt. coming very soon. Looks likely that we will be starting with Concerta soon after that.

Things have actually been going very well for us at home. We still have our flare ups and confrontations but we're handling them much better.

There is a ton of love in our house and things feel very positive overall.

For those of you struggling, hang in there and please, remain dedicated to your child. I say this because I have recently realized what a terrible injustice my own mother did to me way back when I was diagnosed with ADD. She made a very lame and short-lived attempt at medication and then simply did nothing. This can be dealt with if we are willing to do the work and if we are able to put the child's needs above all else.

I know I have my bad days, depressing days but, things get better. It will all be worth it.