What are your personal coping techniques
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|Thu, 09-03-2009 - 7:29am|
I am up at 4:15 am with worry about our son. We got word from school yesterday that his start of 1st grade has been a disaster. Yesterday, I was greeted by the school principal at pick up and it wasn't because our son was named Student of the Month. He had pushed a child's head into a wall during recess. This is a friend of his and I suspect it was just playing taken too far, but still ... mortifying and unacceptable. He was grounded and had zero privileges yesterday. In talking to one of his teachers, I learned he's been extremely defiant in class, refusing to do work he's asked to do and losing focus. He's also running across benches at recess and defying yard duty staff who ask him to stop. The teacher described him as tense and unhappy.
I have a call in to the doctor's office about the situation and expect we'll not just need an ADHD med change but need to start an anti-depressant again (had taken one before for OCD but once the OCD symptoms subsided, we stopped it since it's a serious med). He's just always been an unhappy, glass-half-empty child, and I guess we just got used to it and hearing it from a teacher is deflating.
I'm feeling wiped out mentally trying to figure out how to fix our son ... what new rewards and punishment system we can try. Things have always been difficult with him at home because we're dealing with him mostly when the medication hasn't kicked in or is wearing off. Pretty much like trying to tame a wild animal, with him running across furniture, refusing to do what he's told, etc. It's pretty hard to implement any system with him when he just can't control himself and we have to chase him and try to catch him to address a bad behavior and then he is just spacey.
How do you cope as parents? How do you keep yourself sane through these challenges? Our son is just sucking the life out of our house. If we didn't have a daughter who is totally normal, we'd feel like complete and total failures as parents.