what do you think?

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Registered: 04-09-2003
what do you think?
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Thu, 04-24-2003 - 11:27pm
Hi:

I asked about getting ready for a case conference abit ago. Well, we had it. And, I am totally confused and maybe I just really sensative.

After the test results from the psychologist I took my son to were given, and my report were given the principal gave us a "sob story" about how the school is not getting the money they are suppose to due to the state budget cuts, and that she is loosing teachers and they are low on supplies - "but" that my son was welcome to come to the school for it was a public school. Then she proceded to say that my son better be able to take care of myself for no one was going to "cuddle" him through - "but" he would get the accomodations that the IEP states that he can have.

Now, here problems with the budget, etc. did not need to be discussed at my son's case conference and if I heard one more but I was going to walk out. My son as far as I am concerned is not welcomed there, and I doubt he will get one accomodation.

If I am reading this all wrong and being very selfish for my son please tell me. We were talking to the Junior High Principal to have him enter 8th grade.

Sorry to vent so much.I am very concerned about this and how well my son will do and how this will affect his self-esteem.

Thanks for listening to me.

B
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Registered: 03-25-2003
In reply to: beu2fl
Fri, 04-25-2003 - 12:36am
Hi B--

Just read your post and was very concerned. Red flags everywhere. I don't think you are overreacting at all. I would be furious if I were spoken to that way about my child. Jr. High is hard enough for any child, but more so with things like ADHD.

If you live in the United States the school is required BY LAW to accomodate your child. And you have the right to agree to and request certain accomodations on the IEP. I would push it all the way to meeting with the district if I had to to get the accomodations that he needs.

If you haven't visited Schwablearning.org already, I highly recommend that site. There are a lot of people who have been dealing with this for a long time and have fought the system successfully. If you go to the Parent to Parent board there and post what you posted here, I am confident you will get a lot of good input. The site itself also has a lot of articles and resources about testing, IEPS, and various tips as well.

I really hope that you are able to get your son the help he needs and deserves. Unfortuately a lot of the time unless we make a lot of noise about it, the school isn't going to step forward and offer it.

Good luck! Heidi

Heidi

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Registered: 04-09-2003
In reply to: beu2fl
Fri, 04-25-2003 - 1:19am
Thanks Heidi!

I had not been to that website - and just was there - it is really good - I am going to have to go back, for there is a lot of resources there - thanks for telling me about it.

And, sorry, sorry, sorry to all of you that I put my original post in the wrong place - it should have been under general discussion - sorry!

B

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: beu2fl
Sat, 04-26-2003 - 2:42pm
The sob story is illegal. They are not allowed to even say such things. If I were you I'd get an advocate who knows the laws & can help you & the school with your sons placement. Don't let them do this to you or your son.