When a teacher is working against child?

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Registered: 10-17-2005
When a teacher is working against child?
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Sat, 04-18-2009 - 12:46am

My son is 7 yrs old, born breech in our car and had brain hemorrages in his brain at birth.

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Sat, 04-18-2009 - 10:58am

HI, and welcome!


Has he been evaluated for ADHD? If not I would get it done as soon as possible. ASk for a referral from your Ped to a Neuropsychologist Then ask the school in writing to do an educational evaluation. The teacher is not a DR and cannot diagnose, or even mention ADHD. The schools hands are somewhat tied without a diagnosis.


There is no reason for the teacher to have to fill out a questionnaire, they do not make a diagnosis. A dagnosis is made thru many hours of testing and observation. If the Psych only uses checklists, or the Connors, run to another one. IQ testing, bloodwork, observations etc need to be done.


I would get the testing done, then have an IEP or 504 plan put in place. Once in place the school and teachers have no choice but to follow it.

A child may HAVE ADHD, but it is not what they ARE. Never tell a child they ARE ADHD.

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Registered: 10-01-2007
Sun, 04-19-2009 - 9:28am
Your teacher is being torturous to your child. Poison. We had 1 in 3rd grade. Left him a crying mess that didn't want to go to school everyday. We had to pull him from that class. I know that is not always be an option but I would certainly consider it. I also agree with cl-baykrismom about the evaluations and treatment.
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Registered: 01-19-2009
Sun, 04-19-2009 - 5:45pm
Inform the school in writing that you want to go over his accommodations. Last year my son had a horrible teacher - this year he has a fantastic teacher. He rebounded amazingly. Kids are resilient. Ignore the obviously useless "grades," focus on what he's done positively, and get ready for a better year next year.



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Mon, 04-20-2009 - 9:48am

Well, you can always TELL the psych what you feel are the teacher's issues. Does he do anything else? Church, sports, anything like that? I can also see asking a Sunday School teacher to fill out such a form--probably wont be as good, but at least another set of eyes. There are very much teachers who don't think ADHD "exists". Or some who think it shouldn't be medicated.

Do you NOT already have an IEP? Get one, get the written request for eval on the principal's desk now, so the process gets underway--it can take awhile! WOW on the 0 out of 40--so, the part the *teacher* works with him on is what he's failing at. Innnteresting. He focuses on work just fine but doesn't actually get any of it done? I'd want those answers too.

Though honestly--if your school district is *that* bad, is there any chance of moving to a better one?

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Registered: 03-09-2009
Mon, 04-20-2009 - 9:49am

I agree with the PP that you should ignore the grades. My DS is ADHD and has some mild cognitive issues (in gr. 1 he was found, IQ-wise, to be in the high borderline area...now he might be in the low-average). The way they grade here, everything is out of 4 (so 1 is a D, and 4 is an A). Try as he might, he just can't get a 4. He was bawling one day because he'd made one spelling mistake on his French assignment and would not be getting a 4. I tell him that marks don't matter and that one's best effort does, but he's still hung-up on marks and his self-esteem is very low as a result.

I'm homeschooling next year (for his grade 7 year) and there will be no marking (I'll keep track of how he's doing on assignments/review sheets to ensure that he is reaching at least a B-level understanding and recall of each area of study), and there will be no tests (he has terrible test anxiety...again, he'll do review sheets and assignments until I think he's ready to move on to the next area)

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Sat, 05-02-2009 - 12:00am

My 3rd grader is having a horrible time this year. I HATE her teacher and i wish i could have her fired!!
At the beginning of the year she send a letter out saying she was not a homework kind of teacher, and sends home No paperwork/worksheets home for me to see, everything gets recycled in her classroom.
Well her report card shows D's and the teachers answer to my concern was, "well she doesnt do her work"! I've informed the teacher from day 1 about my child being ADD, and that I needed her to find the time to keep me informed if a problem arose so i could help out. I send concern letters, she never writes back, i leave messages for her she never returns my calls. This is the worst year yet and i know it's the teachers fault.

i agree, have your Dr get the ball rolling, cus the board of ed is slow sometimes...took us 6m from the time i requested the evaluation to the date the first test took place. And trying to request a 2nd test while being medicated is even harder. My region has a policy, to only test every 3rd year, I'm trying to override it by having her evaluated by a phychologist as proof, then using it as ammo at the school.

I've been so angry/helpless i want to pull her from school and homeschool her or switch schools, but each year is different, and each teacher is also, so hopefull you can get all the evals down over the summer and have a iep ready for next year.
(just found out from phycho. about the IEP, i cant wait... "TAKE THAT! YOU BAD TEACHER!!!LOL

good luck
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Fri, 05-08-2009 - 11:22pm
I'm new to this board and esp ADD. My son, was recently diagnosed ADD and has been on Concerta a little less than a month. He's more attention deficit than hyperactive. I've spoken to someone at CHADD and they strongly recommended, and I plan to follow, that anytime I'm in contact with the school to do so in writing but also after speaking with them follow up with a letter or email and save them. Yours and theirs as a record. While his teacher is trying I felt for him on a recent test. I had told him if he got a B or higher I would get a set of Lego. He got a C- but when I looked it over she had marked him down for his handwriting, forgetting to capitalize, and periods but his answers were right! I got him the Lego.