Where to start

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Where to start
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Mon, 02-06-2012 - 2:51pm

My son will turn 7 at the beginning of March.

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Thu, 02-09-2012 - 10:58am
There are some things in there that sound a lot like my oldest son. Get your doctor to make referrals to see about the following (ruling them out would be helpful for an evaluation for ADHD anyhow.)

Auditory processing delays: It sounds like your son is not processing what you are saying - that is, he hears it, but his brain is taking a long time to make sense of it. This is a hard one to convince people of - it took me 5 years to get someone to believe that this was an issue. When my son is one on one in speech therapy, he can attend well. But when there are lots of distractions (TV, radio, other kids) it is really hard for him.

Visual processing issues. You need to go to a developmental optometrist for this. It could be lazy eye, and it could be a brain delay in getting the information to the brain and understood. My oldest has lazy eye (very slight) and couldn't look people in the face because when he looked at them, unless he concentrated very hard, they had 3 eyes. He had to move to see single of things. He had lots of sensory issues, hands on everything (do you say this in the store: Look with your eyes, not your hands!) He needed to hug people (not pushing, but accomplished the same thing I think) he put toys in his mouth until he was 8 and finished eye therapy. He needed to eat crunchy stuff. He moved CONSTANTLY. He reversed letters, had trouble with reading and writing. Those efforts really tired him out because he had to concentrate much harder than most kids. Transitioning was hard for him because it meant new visual stimuli.
He could read well until the font size got small, then the letters moved around the page. Oh, and yes, my son ate with his hands ALL the time, knocked over milk, spilled stuff....

Vision therapy really helped with all of this. Even speech therapy is going better now that he can see faces. It helped with the sensory issues and the reading and the H in ADHD. We homeschool and I don't have him on meds right now, but I think he will need them for the attention part as he gets older and the work gets more challenging. Our doctor said that at that point we need to have him re-evaluated because the H is gone and he really is a much calmer child than he was. (But if he were in school, I can see that he would have a harder time staying on task than most other kids his age - lots of daydreaming, fiddling with stuff, etc.)

If you can get some answers about these things, ruling them out before you see a nueropychologist, it will be helpful for them to give an accurate diagnosis. Our nueropysch did not "believe in" vision therapy, but it certainly did help with the learning issues that my son was having with the reading, and though I did not intend it, with the ADHD. He no longer puts stuff in his mouth, can examine things with just his eyes, doesn't need to hug everyone.

My son was not angry, but then, I think homeschooling helped. He didn't compare himself to his classmates, which is a pretty normal thing to do. When he wasn't talking as a toddler, he was angry then - giving him sign language (quick fix) and speech therapy (long fix) helped a lot. If he knows that his brain just works a little differently than others, that may help him a lot too - he will know he is still smart, just different, and not in a bad way.
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Tue, 02-07-2012 - 5:48pm

No the whole team agreed that he didn't need the IEP.

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Tue, 02-07-2012 - 3:34pm

I agree that the first step would be to get him diagnosed.

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Tue, 02-07-2012 - 1:05pm
For school my DD brings her lunch, and always has. it is usually a Gluten free sandwich( I make her bread), either chicken salad, or almond butter, an apple, bottled water, and potato chips, also made at home. She also brings leftovers in a thermo, but is in high school now, so lunches are a bit odd ..
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Tue, 02-07-2012 - 12:59pm
you could also push for a 504 plan,
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Tue, 02-07-2012 - 12:50pm

Thanks for that information.

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Tue, 02-07-2012 - 9:57am

Hi, and welcome