wondering about dd

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Registered: 01-20-2007
wondering about dd
Fri, 06-12-2009 - 6:14pm

My dd (age 4) is a wonderful little girl.

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Fri, 06-12-2009 - 6:39pm

HI, and welcome.

If you suspect an LD you could have her evaluated through the public school system. I would do that first, then follow thru with an ADHD evaluation when she is older, with a Neuropsychologist.

She also sounds like

A child may HAVE ADHD, but it is not what they ARE. Never tell a child they ARE ADHD.

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Registered: 03-25-2008
Fri, 06-12-2009 - 10:08pm

You can get help at age four. We got help starting at three with our son because he was very extreme (not medication at that age ... just behavioral strategies from the professionals). I would probably wait, though, until your daughter starts preschool. The teachers will definitely let you know if her behavior is outside of the normal range. Our son was kicked out of preschool and that's what really opened up the doors with the medical professionals. At a young age, they will likely discount your concerns, but if you have teachers backing you up, it helps tremendously.

Don't worry about anyone who belittles your concerns. You will have family that supports you and family that doesn't. My parents were very anti-medication and I got a lot of passive-aggressive feedback from them when we had to try medications when all else failed. Ritalin totally turned things around for our son. He still has some behavior issues at school (lack of focus and silliness, primarily), but overall is much, much happier and functional on medication. After a couple of years, my parents are less hostile about the diagnosis; in fact, they are quite eager for our son to take his medication when he visits them! I think they've realized he truly does have a medical condition and that we're not bad parents.

I started off bringing up my concerns with the pediatrician and from there got referred to a child psychologist. We then moved on to a behavioral therapist and finally a child psychiatrist (prescribes medication).

Good luck to you! You may learn her behavior is just fine for her age, but if you have a sense all is not right, run with it and get some professional opinions.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Sat, 06-13-2009 - 7:06am

That's not necessarily ADHD, of course, which is the point in going for help: find out what it is! I'd talk to your pediatrician & also your school district about evaluations, see what they say.

Family members: I just don't share information. If I *have* to (the kid mentions taking meds in front of them), I keep it short, sweet & terminate the conversation. This whole thing is waaaaay hard enough already without having to listen to advice from people who aren't in the middle & won't listen to anything. I mean, they're not going to accept a diagnosis if you get one, so why tell them anything in the first place? If you do, you'll have to do the thick-skinned ignoring bit, which isn't fun or particularly easy. Coming & venting on boards like this one seems to help, though--plenty of fellow-feeling here!