wondering about social maturity....

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Registered: 03-03-2009
wondering about social maturity....
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Tue, 04-14-2009 - 11:28am

Informal poll--does your child with ADD/ADHD seem significantly younger, socially, than his or her peers?

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 04-15-2009 - 8:41am

Younger here too--that's been clear for years (he's 11, 6th grade). Um...well, what can work here is very explicit discussions about what you ARE supposed to do. He won't pick it up out of the woodwork like lots of kids--as an example, waaaay back in 1st grade, we taught him to say "hi" back when someone says hi to him. For the dances--there's really nothing there for kids who don't want to dance? Not sure what your group activities are--in the 5th grade dances, they seemed to have dancing & then games (Nok hockey, pool, etc.) in another room--those games are what my kid loved, but he wasn't alone. If it were just dancing, I doubt he'd want to go--so far he hasn't, in 6th, because he thinks it is. Is your kid into music at all? Rock, is, I presume, what they're playing at these parties? Even just knowing the songs in advance could help. I don't know...I'm not sure I'd keep him from the parties he's invited to, I think I'd try to help him understand what proper behavior is at those events?

BTW, the social issues are indeed part of the ADHD thing, based on all I've read.

Megan
Megan
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Registered: 02-14-2007
Wed, 04-15-2009 - 8:25pm

I've gone both ways with this and my suggestion is to expose him to everything and maturity will eventually take over.

Denise