15 yr old, planning for adulthood

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15 yr old, planning for adulthood
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Thu, 02-11-2010 - 6:40pm

Definitely time to face it. It is no longer about dealing with schools and IEPs and speech and OT and so on. I am now looking at adulthood. My son is capable and smart. But, he can easily sit there and stare at the walls for hours if not constantly reminded to stay on subject. He takes no initiative for himself. He is ahead academically, but cannot seem to handle so much. He wants to be a computer programmer. Our community colleges here allow teens to enroll fulltime starting at 16, and take distance learning classes before that. My son is more than ready to start handle the course work of a community college course I am certain.

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Thu, 02-11-2010 - 9:13pm

I'm not really in a place to have advice for you. We're a few years behind you age-wise, but I can understand mentally what you're up against. 3 years will go fast.

The community college sounds like a good option. Maybe finding a part-time job too - see if you can hook up with an agency that can provide a job coach etc. The school district might know what is out there since they are supposed to have transition planning experience for special ed students.

Best wishes for this next adventure.

Andrea, mom to

Graham
Miles
Anson

Andrea, mom to

Graham
Miles
Anson
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Fri, 02-12-2010 - 1:55am

I have to say I cringe everytime you say you have given up with the school.

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Fri, 02-12-2010 - 2:28am

My son is younger than yours

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Fri, 02-12-2010 - 12:20pm

For fall term, he got 3 B's and 1 A and an F for the fall term. The F was in the class where the teacher did NOT want him. I was told I could go through an appeal process, one that would take years. There were 5 steps at the local level, each of which would take several months. Each that would be futile. There would be no getting anywhere as long as we were on the local level. This means he would be 18 or 19 yrs old while we still fight over a freshman level class. To top it off, I had already heard about this from other parents, but kids were having sex in the bathroom and doing drugs on campus. My son told me there were drugs in 2 of his classes. We do not have the money for a lawyer. We are in Texas and it is stupid and insane. I emailed everyone from the school board to the superindendents office to everyone. No one cared. This was Lewisville ISD. They are awful. I hate them.


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Sat, 02-13-2010 - 9:51am

Ya know regardless if he was in public school or not this is the age to start looking at adulthood. Even in public school they would be writing him a transition plan to start planning for adulthood and what is next. It sounds like your plan to me is a good one with 2 small issues.

1) Will he be able to have enough credits for a high school diploma? If not is there a way for him to get one or make sure that not having one will not effect his future education nor his emotional well being. Even most homeschool programs I believe a kid can earn a diploma from and he can likely get the diploma from there using community college credits.

2) Don't forget the other things beyong academics he needs to be prepared for in order to be ready for adulthood. Some such skills are how to write and application, go on an interview, write a resume, balance a checkbook, keep a bank account, cook, clean,AND really really important, leisure skills (hobbies, how to go to the movies on his own, etc)

Soon it would be good for him to start considering some volunteer work of a part time job to begin learning job skills. Most high schools have a program for kids cwith disabilities called workability. Perhaps there is something similar through a homeschool program or you can find some kind of employment for him with someone who would be understanding.

Good luck!

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