16 year old w/PDD

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16 year old w/PDD
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Thu, 09-11-2003 - 3:51pm
Hi there,

Just wanted to share a little bit about my life with my ds, Peter. He was diagnosed with PDD when he was 8, in his case it's the equivalent of mild Autism. He did okay in Catholic school till he hit the 5th grade, his behavior in school went downhill from there. However, in the latter part of his 6th grade year the San Diego school district placed him in school for high functioning kids with special needs. He has done well there. He has had problems in the past of staying in the classroom and wandering the halls, but this year, his junior year in highschool, by George I think he's finally got it! His teacher says that Peter started out this year very well. In the past the first 2 weeks of school, because my son HATES change, he has acted up and not stayed in the classsroom. I'm just pleased as punch that he's complying this year with his teachers.

Peter does stim when he gets excited about something, he bends his arms and moves them up and down and also does the different movements with his hands. He will be 17 in Dec. and I am so hesistant to move forward and help him get his Driver's License, San Diego is a crazy place to drive, the traffic is about as bad as LA almost. Does anybody have any experience or suggestions regarding helping my son to be a careful and responsible driver? He is a "young" minded 16 year old. His Psychiatrist has told me that the only way we'd know if Peter could drive or not, would be to just give him a chance, have him go to driving school. However, what if something happens, ugh.. I have Adult ADD and have a hard time driving in this town, let alone Autism. I worry about my son getting stopped by a policeman or woman. Answering questions and looking someone straight in the eyes is still hard for my son, he tend to react when he feels cornered, I have talked to Pete about this face-to-face. One mom told me that a cop here in S.D. hit her son because he was throwing aluminum cans near the officer and didn't understand that the young man had Autism, what a jackass policeman.. Anyhow, I won't go on and on. Any suggestions on dealing with the driving issue would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks for listening :-) Lorie

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Registered: 08-30-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 6:11pm
Lorie, I have a 15 year old with PDD-NOS and he was diagnosed when he was 13. He has a very mild case and close to AS. It took him 4 attempts to obtain his permit to drive and he earned it on the 5th. He was determined. Now he is in drivers ed and I am very very very nervous. He gets confused very easily and along with your son, has difficulty making eye contact. I have not driven in the front seat of the car with him yet (DH is doing that and I grab on to the head rest behind DH). Our city is a LOT smaller than your city but is there a parking lot that is vacant that you can take him to? Around here I have heard of people using the college parking lot when classes are not in session to have them practice.

We should keep in touch..I don't know if there are very many PDD issues on here.

Linda

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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 12:05am
Hello Linda,

Thank you so much for your input,I really appreciate it! It is hard to find a nice big empty parking lot around here, but I will keep my eyes open! It sounds like we have some things in common! I would definitely like to keep in touch, I could pop into the board as much as I can, or if you'd like, I'll give you my email address and maybe we could share our tribulations and challenges through email.

My email address is:

ohlordy402001@yahoo.com

I'll pop into this board tomorrow... take care..

:0) Lorie

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Registered: 07-11-2003
Fri, 09-12-2003 - 6:29am
Hi, Lori, welcome to the board! :)

We actually have a few members here that are in the SD area. Infact, I they had a "Mini Board Meet" a few months back and I was really jealous that I couldn't make it (I live in Northern CA).

As far as the driving is concerned I would say this....A) go ahead and let him get the permit. He can't get his licence right now without your consent anyway. This will give you an oppertunity to make sure that he learns to drive in a manner that he will comprehend from instructors he will understand. Like was already said, you don't have to let him out on the street until you think he's ready for it.

And B) I think in CA you can still have his licence marked with 'Autism' even if he has PDD. All you need is note from his doctor. This cuts down on misunderstandings with cops. This may not be available anymore though, but I think it is. I remember hearing about a bunch of parents complaining about their kids being labled b/c of the term being used on the licence. But the thing is, it's not mandatory to have it on there, it's for the convience of the individual.

But, it may aslo turn out that Peter isn't able to drive. I don't think my dd, Jade, ever will be able to. But she's also only 9 and has been know to surprise us in the past. But still, in her case, she is the kind of ASD that we expect to continue living with us through her adult life. She has 5 sisters, 2 of whom are also on the Spectrum, but they are much higher functioning.

Again, welcome to the board. We look forward to getting to know you and Peter better. :)

Peace,

Candes

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Fri, 09-12-2003 - 11:37am
I just emailed you Lorie.

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Sat, 09-13-2003 - 3:32pm
Hi, I have an almost 11 yr. old dd with AS. I live in Del Mar. I have a 14 yr. old dd too ( no problems) & I don't want her driving! The traffic here has gotten so bad! She wants to get her permit next summer when she is 15 1/2. I don't want her to drive so young & would like her to wait until 18 or so but I'm sure I'll cave in under pressure. It frightens me the idea of her getting on the freeways & getting caught up in that mass of cars on the 5 or the 15. I have a friend @ work who said her normal 17 yr. old dd called her crying because she was lost. She has lived in Tierrasanta all her life & was on the 805 & got off on the wrong exit & had no idea where she was! This is why I'm nervous about the driving... Anyway, good luck with your ds. I have my dd (11) in special ed since last yr. & so far she is doing well in 6th. grade. Have a good school year. MaryAnn
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Sat, 09-13-2003 - 5:11pm
After reading what about what all of you go through with the traffic, I have to say that I am glad to live in a small city. I won't drive in St. Louis when we go because it is to big for me and I get nervous with all the lanes. Sounds like where you all live it is worse than St. Loius. I live in southeast Iowa. CORN COUNTRY!!!!! as they say.

Good luck to those of you who drive where it is hectic.

Linda

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