2 1/2 year old with?// I am new here

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Registered: 08-03-2003
2 1/2 year old with?// I am new here
Sun, 08-03-2003 - 10:04pm
I got the diagnois that my boy(adopted grandson )has autism, ( 10 months ago) now that he is 10 months older he is changing. He does look people in the face, will go to any one who he see's and begins to chat with them, and he is very out going at times.Here is my question,** are Autistic kids as hyper a he is? and how long will it be til he out grows the tantrums? He is very impulsive, does not listen to "no" and runs from mornoing til night with out though to settling down.

I am exausted befor 2:00 in the afternoon, and seem like my days are so long I can not wait to lay my head down. I have had him since birth, and even then he was so demanding that he never slept or layed down. I had to constantly rock him in his chair, and even slept on a recliner for almost a year with my foot rocking him so he would not cry.

He refuses to sleep in his own bed and gates to not keep him in to any room. When I cook I put a gate up in the kitrchen so he does not get hurt, now he can get it down no matter how tight.

Does any one here have a small one with the same problems? I need some answers, does he have autism, or aspergers now? also how does one clam them down from running all day and night?

He talks well, has had a speech and occ therapist for 10 months and does real well.

They say he is on the same level as other childrenhis age, but is he also ADHD? is there such a thing in Austic kids? his dad was adhd, I was also as a child.

Please, can some one give me some insight to my questions?
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Registered: 08-02-2003
Sun, 08-03-2003 - 10:55pm
Hi, I have an 8 y/o boy with ADHD/Asperger's, he has to take Adderall for his hyperness & Risperdal so he can sleep w/o night terrors. Has taken Adderall it since age 5 & Risperdal for about 2 mo. It works for him! We tried a break from the Adderall once and he lost all control & 2 days into it we put him back on it. He also seemed happier to be back in control of himself when we put him back on it.

My son has moments where he will look people in the eye and moments that he won't. Usually if he's uncomfortable with the situation he looks straight at the floor.

He also still has tantrums. Big tantrums, throwing things, slamming doors, kicking things etc. I am waiting to get into the psych to get him on anti-depressants. Seems like that works for a lot of kids.

Take care,


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Registered: 07-11-2003
Mon, 08-04-2003 - 3:08am
Hi and welcome to the board!

I have three children on the autism spectrum ages 12, 8, and 3. My 12yo has ADD as a comorbid condition to her PDD-NOS and my 8yo has ADHD as a comorbid to her Asperger's(along with a zillion other things). AD/HD is one of the most common coexisting conditions with autism, whether it's the hyper type or inattentive type.

Jade, my 8yo, runs non-stop from morning till she drops from exhaustion at night, which is usually about an hour or two after she gets put to bed. She makes eye contact most of the time now (after a few years of therapy) but her gaze is still a touch awkward sometimes. She either blinks too much (lights are on but no one's home) or she doesn't blink enough(deer in the headlight look). She fidgets constantly and can't sit still (unless she's watching YuGiO, LOL). When we had her in public school she was constantly bored with everything, even when at home. We've been homeschooling her for 3 years now and incorperating behavioral therapies that work wonders for her. She's gotten to the point where she very often seems normal now. But, of course, if you talk to her for any length of time you can still see that there's something very different about her. She's also an autistic savant in certain fields of science, so that's the 'difference' people normally notice first. It's just not normal for 8yo girls to want to discuss initial referances in comological convergeance patterns or the mathmatical formula used to calculate the speed and direction of a mega-sunami (sp?).

You said your ds(dearest son) was 2yo? Jade's autistic meltdowns started at 2yo and lasted until she was 5. She still has meltdowns and tantrums, but they are no where near as severe as they used to be. Once she started communicating on a mostly fluent level her mega-meltdowns ceased. At least, she is no longer violent. I used to carry a baby comforter with me every where we went so I could wrap her up in it to pin her arms and legs (to keep her from hurting herself or another) whenever we went out.....just incase.

Ayla(the 12yo) and Eva(3yo) aren't like that. Ayla did have some pretty bad meltdowns when she was a toddler and preschooler but she wasn't violent. She would just stand there and screetch and point. Eva is actually very rational, too rational. she's incredably hyperlexic and hyperlanguic. Because of that she communicates like a 20yo most of the time. If she gets upset, logic will often win out over everything else (unless bugs are involved...that's a whole different story). Today she started crying loudly over something (never did catch what was wrong) and I just looked at her and said "You are aware your waisting oxygine aren't you?" She suddenly stopped and shaid "No, I didn't know that." and that was the end of it. She went on her merry little way to plan her war on insects.

With Jade I've found that making sure to have her 'safe toys' around is always a good idea. When she was little she had a soft pink sweater (6 sizes too big) that she really liked. I made sure to have it close at hand so when she started getting out of control I could find her a quiet place where she could sit and cuddle with the sweater. Now it's her favorite ink pen. she runs her fingers over the smoother surface when she's adgetated and that helps to calm her (as well as give her hands something to do with all that energy) I found that certain foods worked for her too. Oragnge juice is a familiar and calming taste to her, so I keep a pitcher made at all times. She also really likes toast, any kind of toast.

But the number one thing I've found that works is identifying her personal routines and sensory issues and helping her with them. I recognize her routines as being important to her and let her do them. I keep a watch for noises and lights that I know really agitate her and try to keep her away from them. Of course, there are always going to be things she will just have to learn to deal with, like her little sister's voice. Eva's voice is typical 3yo, high and sometimes shrill. I make sure Jade has time away from her sister everyday and send them on seperate vaccations when I can (right now jade is at camp with her great grandmother and Eva is home).

Okay, this has gotten pretty long, LOL, sorry.

Again, welcome to the board. I look forward to getting to know you better. It sure does help to know you're not alone in dealing with this.