Another question sort of homework relate

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Another question sort of homework relate
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Thu, 08-31-2006 - 9:28am

You all gave me such good advice and support with my last homework question (THANK YOU) so here is another one.

This one is about ds (6th grade, AS). He is supposed to have us sign his agenda after he reads for 15mins. We've been trying to teach him responsibility and orgaization, ect for YEARS. Executive function is a big area of need for him. He has goals for it at school. I'm failing miserably at teaching him this one skill of bringing me his agenda to sign. He gets half of his disorganization from me! Any tips on teaching him this. BTW, I've tried visual schedules with him for other things (not signing agenda, though) and he doesn't utilize it. He doesn't seem to like them and gets annoyed if I prompt him to use them.

Samantha

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Thu, 08-31-2006 - 9:40am

Does the agenda at least make it home in his bookbag?

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Thu, 08-31-2006 - 10:21am

I know Josh gets annoyed when i prompt him on things he is not too thrilled with doing. Or if i have to harp him until a task is complete.
Unfortunately it is the nature of the beast sometimes.
Until the new skill becomes a habit then prompting may be necessary.

If the book is not making it into the bag then how do you know what the homework is?Usually for us the agenda book is also a form of communication between us and the teacher.
I know Josh will be in 6th grade too. And they expect so much of them. They expect them to remember everything they need during maybe 2 trips to their lockers. Unfortunately Josh's pull outs usually occur at the end of the school day so he had to think further back and not get the 3rd time. The teacher would say he could go back to his locker, but mister I got to get to the bus or too focused on something else would not think to ask. And his teacher was not good for prompting him, she expected Josh to come to her. So their were times Josh would forget something. On the other hand Josh would never bring home his tests to be signed (esp if he failed)
Rina

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Thu, 08-31-2006 - 10:36am

He is bringing the agenda home. He has an aide who assists him with organizing and packing his bag at the end of the day.

Thanks for the alarm idea. That just might work for him.

Samantha

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Thu, 08-31-2006 - 10:53am

When you figure it out, let me know.

Cait was constantly marked off for her reading log last year. Of course, with all the other stuff that takes up life and mom responsibilities, signing a dang log that she has read (when she is a hyperlexic nearly obsessive reader) is pretty darn low on my list of priorities so remember to try to teach her to do it has been a royal PITA.

Renee

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Thu, 08-31-2006 - 10:59am

dear lord, even when the planner (agenda, our kids have planners this year) makes it home AND it is filled in AND the aide has checked it, half the time it is STILL missing stuff.

Last night I got an email from the teacher because Cait had alot of homework (since she didn't do it with dad the night before) and she had 7 items that she had to complete. The teacher said ALL of these were in her planner. NOPE, 2 of the biggest ones weren't in the planner. And even some of the ones that were, were so vaguely stated that Cait didn't know what to do and I couldn't figure it out. For instance "science project due friday". Sure that may work for most kids but she needs exact steps. For instance, "type rough draft into final draft on the computer". Needless to say the science project is a mess with mostly pictures drawn and no research done (I didn't even know there was a "project" until yesterday) so it will not be complete on Friday. Grrrrrrrr

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Thu, 08-31-2006 - 3:41pm

Funny you should mention science project. We really blew it last year. Josh brought home a paper forus to sign that laid out a science fair project. We had a choice of 3 things to due. We thought it was extra credit for a science fair. And we sign the paper figuring we would do it.

I left it up to my DH to do the project with Josh. They were to figure out how to take paper plates and make them go like a wheel.
Time goes by and Josh is bugging DH to work on the project, i bug Dh and DH keeps putting it off. Josh keeps insisting it is not extra credit. do we listen. We have so much on our plates we figure let it slide it is only extra credit.
turns out the project was not extra credit and was due even after a warning from the teacher. Truly we just felt we had stressed out josh enough on other things with Scouts, Hebrew school, regular school life etc.

We we got a major hit on that. Got an F on that project and Josh's quarterly grade which had already been hanging by a balance ended up being an F. No matter what ever crow DH and i were willing to eat, this teacher would not bend to allow Josh to make it up. Needless to say Josh was not happy but we could not be angry it was our own fault. Lesson learned.

Rina