Are you the bad guy too?

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Are you the bad guy too?
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Wed, 10-31-2007 - 8:45am

First off, let me say that Sam is doing well at school and I am extremely happy about that.

I am thoroughly sick of being the bad guy around here though! And hoo boy, that is making me fee like total C-R-A-P!

He is able to listen, follow directions, redirect, take other's opinions and POV at school....etc. But golly gosh, if mom says something forget it!!! Mom is mean, irrational and generally wrong in so many ways. I'm going to crash and burn any day now, ladies.

I see how he responds to happy, positive redirection from other adults. If I try that approach, forget it! Sam reacts the exact opposite. Instead of becoming more positive, he challenges me to show me how horrible the situation is and how incredibly wrong I am for suggesting that it's not so bad and that he can do it. It is making me insane! I feel like a complete loser/failure because I have to be the drill seargant and lay down the law *all the time.* If I am anything else, he walks all over me or spirals into complete negativity or out of control. It has to be, "you have to do it or else," not "come on you can do it, when you're done you get to ...xyz.."

I don't get it.....yet I get it.....KWIM. My rational mind understands why I get to be the punching bag all the time (yeah, me) but emotionally, I *just don't get it!!!!* LOL Argh.......I take solace in the fact that DS #2 is the same with DH. Harrison really responds to my positive reinforcement, but does not for DH.

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Wed, 10-31-2007 - 8:57am

Sorry Chrystie but it's funny here cause I am the bad cop and Adam's best friend all at the same time.


Hang in there


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Wed, 10-31-2007 - 11:32am

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Wed, 10-31-2007 - 3:13pm

Chrystee,


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Thu, 11-01-2007 - 4:26am

It is the same around here. I sometimes get heartily sick of school telling me how good he is there!!!


I am thankful that if he has to be good somewhere it is at school, but I am fed up with being the punching bag!!!!


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Thu, 11-01-2007 - 8:07am

AMEN!!!


i was about to write how son has improved in school and with other but home with me is hell.


it's a comfort to know others are in the same place.