Aspergers Teens and when they become independent

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Registered: 04-26-2010
Aspergers Teens and when they become independent
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Fri, 12-03-2010 - 11:03pm

I have a 15 year old aspergers daughter. She is joined to me at the hip. Well she feels comfortable alone and with her sisters in familiar spots like a well known restaurant or at home. But other than that she seems to want me with her. When we shop together she is literally attached to my hip. She wont wander off and look at things herself. It didnt used to be this bad. There was a time when her and her friends would wander and shop together but not anymore. I am not sure what happened.

When did independence start for your older teen aspergers kids? I know they are all different. But I just want to know if other parents of teens are going through this too.

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Registered: 04-26-2010

YEah thats an interesting take on it. Maybe she expects more of herself or maybe she thinks we expect more of her. It could be 16 is coming and thats driving age. She saw her sisters learn (much to my frustration) and now is anxious over learning and getting licensed. I like to talk about it and hopefully instill some excitement in her. But when I ask what kind of car she wants she always replies with 'mom I am only 15. I wont be driving for a long time'. So I think she is nervous.

I think back on my childhood and I wasnt nervous about each new year but about each new grade. Worrying if I could do the work of the next grade up. And then that awful feeling of going from being the big kid in grade 5 to the little 6th grader in middle school and same when moving up to high school. So yes I see your point.