Autism at heart of diners' misunderstand

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Autism at heart of diners' misunderstand
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Thu, 03-02-2006 - 9:53pm


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Thu, 03-02-2006 - 10:25pm
GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
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Fri, 03-03-2006 - 6:40am

Double GRRRRRRRRR!

Something similar happened here, but in a movie theater. The boy did not have autism, he had Tourettes. He was 8 and had gone to see Curious George. He laughed at inappropriate times, patrons got upset, was asked by manager to leave.

Only here the theatre company didn't even attempt to apologize. Just said, they stand by management's decision.

Ugh.

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Fri, 03-03-2006 - 8:20am

Oh Horrors. Laughed at inappropriate times in a kid's movie. Snorted to clear his throat. Is it my imagination or are people becoming just so much more intolerant and unkind? This is the kind of stuff that just sets my teeth completely on edge and basically makes me feel kinda murderous. And with my son, it's even more irritating because he just doesn't really get disruptive in public, he is polite and sweet and when he gets excited or angry, his noise is just a little more exuberant or edgy than anyone else's, and STILL people can just act so disgusted. And I'm, like, WHAT!!!!????!!!! What is up with all you people????? There are other people in the world, did you just now notice it? And who has written all these RULES, noone is even allowed an exuberant moment now? Sheeeesh.

I have no sympathy at all for this crap anymore, none. Frankly, when I'm riding the subway with my son and a friend or 2 of his, and they get silly or a little jostling and goofy, or slightly upset by a change in plans and people's faces get all hard and judgemental, well, NOW I don't even bother to say "shhh" or "inside voices". I just join in with the boys. In fact, I can get even a little louder, siller or more disappointed than they are. (Then, when I try to rap or dance with them or moan louder, etc., the boys say "MOOMM! SARA! Cut it out!!" and get a huge kick out of reprimanding me...) I just hope I give those judges and juries something to really disapprove of and feel so smug and superior to, by golly! Go move to a retirement community, why doncha, where there are no children. Or how about another planet.

OK, done ranting. I feel better.

Sara
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Fri, 03-03-2006 - 8:22am

I live in Lansing. Here's the follow-up to John Schneider's first column:

http://www.lsj.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20060228/COLUMNISTS09/602280333/1016/columnists09

A lot of people (from all over the world) wrote in to support the family.

Elizabeth
mom to Chris, 13, AS

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Fri, 03-03-2006 - 9:01am
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Fri, 03-03-2006 - 9:42am

The first time I wrote in response all I could manage was GRRRRRRRRRRR I was so angry. You have really been able to put alot of that into words for me.

Many of the parents and others wrote in that we need to be considerate of others when in public (parents of children with autism).

HE WAS CLEARING HIS THROAT for gosh sakes. He wasnt melting down. He wasn't aggressive. He wasn't screaming. He was different.

I was REALLY upset by the management telling them that they should have said something when they arrived so that they could be seated away from other patrons. HELLO! Why is the only population it is ok to segregate those with special needs? Why do we have to fight a whole new civil rights fight to not be embarrassed to be different in pulic.

There was more than that but I have to run cait to school. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRr

Renee

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Fri, 03-03-2006 - 3:30pm

This more than makes me mad. It makes me sad.

 

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Sat, 03-04-2006 - 4:43pm

Tina....I've had several similar incidences like the one you describe.....we did not return to library story hour because of one such incident.

I agree with everyone.....he was clearing his throat.....I could understand if he was doing something like throwing food but come on.....how can any family with kids (special or typical) be offended by some unusual noises coming from another table containing kids.....people are becoming less tolerant....

GGRRRRRRRRRRRR as well

christie

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Sat, 03-04-2006 - 9:45pm

Hi,
We had an incident like this happen when we took Billy, then 3, into Boston. We were eating our lunches outside near a statue. Billy was wandering around it making raspberry noises and kind of spitting a little. He liked the way the raspberry sound felt on his mouth..lots of sensory issues. Anyways, I heard a woman exclaim incredibly loudly to the people with her how disgusting that little boy was being and clucking her tongue. I got up and told Billy to stop and he eventually did. As I was trying to get Billy to stop she was following me around and really getting in my face about how rude it was blah blah blah. Finally I just snapped and I know this was not the way to handle it at all, but I marched up to her about 6 inches from her face and told her to take a f***ing picture as loud as I could. Her face went white and she turned around and practically ran away from the crazy lady with the spitting kid at the statue. LOL.

Jen

 

Jen

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Sat, 03-04-2006 - 10:14pm
LOL....I think you did just fine!

 


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