"An autistic" yuck!!!

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Registered: 02-24-2001
"An autistic" yuck!!!
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Sat, 07-03-2010 - 1:55pm

Whenever I hear someone call a child "an autistic" I feel like screaming. That is like calling someone with the flu...a flu. Calling someone with cancer..."he is a cancer" or calling someone with PCOS "she is a polycystic" Maybe I should call her "oh, she is a low IQ, and she is a rude bad manner."

While that is something that really bothers me, I had a conversation with a woman the other day that I just had to leave quite quickly. First, she was telling me how her son was adopted. Then she said that the birthmother could not handle him because her older child is an autistic (things 1 and 2 that bothered me, I am sure the mother could have handled him, but gave him up for whatever else reasons, birthmothers usually love their children, they could have aborted and did not, and gave them up for whatever reasons). I stupidly mentioned that autism can be genetic, her response was that she knows. But then goes on to say her baby could never have autism because he is too smart and he is too happy. Ummm, kids with autism can be smart. I hate hate hate people who are so prejudiced and no nothing about ASD but presume to know all. Kids with autism can be perfectly happy too. Her baby was 4 months old. My child who has PDD-NOS was all smiles and happy at 4 months old.

This just brings us back to when my son got his IEP and suddenly, teachers did not want him in their classes. It was only the gifted class teachers who would say this. They would claim that no child with an IEP can handle their classes. I am sick of stupid prejudiced bigoted rude people.

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Sun, 07-04-2010 - 6:37pm

I am sorry that the teachers suddenly didn't want your child in classes. I think at least a third of the students in GT at YDS's school have IEPs of one sort or another.

Regarding the women who wouldn't accept "new" information about the intelligence of many children on the spectrum, some people are ignorant and choose to remain so. My ODS has Pragmatic/Semantic disorder and was also a very good and happy baby and happy teen.

I think of "an autistic" as similar to "a diabetic" or "a hypoglycemic" or "a dyslexic". Some conditions have the "ic" attached and some don't. It is just the way the language has evolved. I have heard people refer to themselves as polycystic.

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Sat, 07-03-2010 - 8:47pm
She was not the least bit interested in hearing reality. I tried to explain to her my son was very happy and he was and still is very smart. He went downhill maybe around 2.5 yrs old. But she was too busy telling me what she was telling me, that children with autism are never happy and are slow from birth and you can tell as soon as they are born and so on.
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Registered: 11-28-2006
Sat, 07-03-2010 - 4:53pm

I agree ribit, I agree, and getting angry is a totally normal thing.

When I get that mad, then I stop and think well then, this means it's time we educate more people.

Put your anger into advocating and spreading the word. This will help you feel better and help the world understand our kids better.

(but I tell ya, I can seeth at the public sometimes, so I hear ya!)