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Thu, 08-04-2011 - 3:06pm

For those who remember me, I used to be known as mommy2nathan2004.

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Thu, 08-04-2011 - 8:56pm

Hi Kirsty!

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Thu, 08-04-2011 - 5:01pm

Hiya and welcome back. I have a 12 year old Aspie so I can relate to some of your fears. Don't beat yourself up, you are doing a great job and this transition to teenagehood is tough...

Remember, the meltdowns are 'flareups' - a cry for help and way of managing the sometimes overwhelming things he has to deal with. they are not bad, they are just coping mechanisms. they won't go away.....but they will get easier to manage.I ketp thinking we'd cracked it, but I now think we never will in the sense of it going away - but my DS can now take himself off, have a huge fit, and calm himself down. When you look at how many NT adults are in the grips of anger issues and can't recognise or manage that properly, then I think our kiddos are doing pretty well.

I sometimes wonder if my DS will ever be able to leave home, get a job, live independently.....but then I see many wonderful young people and adults with ASD doing just that. I'm a university professor and have a couple of students with ASD. they never 'grew out' of it, or had it go away, but with a lot of support they larned how to live WITH it, very effectively. Loads of ASD kids grow up to be ASD adults - they won't ever grow up to be NT adults though. I still have to remind myself of that and change my expectations. But then my DS constantly amazes me with what he CAN do, and I am sure yours does too, so I don't think so much about what he CAN'T do, other than try and find ways around it.

Hang in there

Kirsty, mum to Euan (12, Aspergers Syndrome) Rohan (8, NT) and Maeve (5, NT)

"My definition of housework is to sweep the room with a glance"


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Thu, 08-04-2011 - 4:45pm

It was mentioned before, but the dentists where I take my kids are concerned of his reaction to it.

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Thu, 08-04-2011 - 4:17pm
Hi Michelle, I'm glad you came back for support. I'm sorry that you are struggling with Nathan, and just wanted to offer up some (((HUGS))). One suggestion for the dentist although I'm not sure he would go for it or not. Have they tried giving him a little bit of laughing gas? I wanted to mention it because it can help with the gag reflex and might make x-rays and treatments more tolerable. I hope you can find a med combo that will help with some of it, it's such a guessing game to see what will work.