bad bad mommy!

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bad bad mommy!
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Thu, 03-22-2007 - 8:10am

autism slapped me in the face this morning.

Weston had a field trip today. It was to Charleston so they were to leave at 5:45am and return at 7pm. I forgot. We woke up at 6:05 like normal, woke Weston up at 6:15 like normal. He rolled over and looked at me and then at the clock and said, "I had a field trip today" and got this sad look on his face. I hurried up and threw together a lunch got him dressed and raced to the school in case the buses were late or something. they weren't. We both started to cry. then he says to me, "part of the responsibility is mine, I didn't get up when my alarm went off" (he'd set his alarm and didn't wake up for it and Warren turned it off but didn't tell anyone or wake anyone up). His voice was totally flat, not an emotion on his face, just tears.

The teachers had sent home the 'reminder' & what to bring list 3 weeks ago. I had it on my calendar. Things last night were a little hectic and I had other things on my mind when I put the kids to bed (minor drama w/ Martha and Owen) but nothing huge. Weston NEVER said a word about the field trip yesterday at all (we'd talked about it last week). He didn't ask about me making his lunch or getting his backpack ready or anything. My NT kids (even Warren who is aspie-ish) would have said something, been excited, reminded me a 100 times. Weston said nothing, and yet, I know that these are things he doesn't connect with and communicate so I have to rememeber for us both. He seems like he's come so far and is so normal most of the time, and yet... autism.

Betsy

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Thu, 03-22-2007 - 8:29am

Betsy, I'm so sorry for you guys. I can totally see that happening to us to. ((((HUGS))))

Samantha

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Thu, 03-22-2007 - 9:08pm
Poor guy, and poor mommy! That's an awfully early field trip! I'd have missed it for the hour if I hadn't missed it for the lack of reminder!!! I hope he recovers from his disappointment -- maybe everyone else can have had a miserable time to make him feel better?!
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Thu, 03-22-2007 - 9:20pm

Betsy,


I got all teary just there for both of you.

-Paula

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Fri, 03-23-2007 - 12:19am

Betsy,

I am sooo sorry. I read this this morning when I had no time to respond and I have been thinking about it on and off all day and it just made me so sad for you. I am really sorry this happened. poor Weston.

So did his day get any brighter?

Renee

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Fri, 03-23-2007 - 12:55am

Oh, ((Betsy))!

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Fri, 03-23-2007 - 2:00pm

Thanks for all the kind words and your thoughts for us both.

Weston sat in the chair w/ his head covered up for about an hour. After all the other kids had gone to school, he went up and got on the computer and played Lego Star Wars for a while. I was working and Owen was leaving him alone so he recovered pretty quickly. He was VERY happy not to have to go to school. DH called and asked if we wanted to come have lunch out w/ him so we went to Chick-fil-A. Then, Weston took his Christmas money and we bought Legos at target. Life is so good!

I had a parent teacher conference w/ his teachers today, they agree that things are not going so well in Weston's world. He's trying to escape at every possible opportunity. They're using all the sensory things and stuff they can to help him, but he's asking to go to the nurse daily and he's having a VERY hard time staying in class for more than 20 min. Math is at the end of the day after lunch and recess so he's almost always zoned out and unable to do his work and asking constantly to go to the nurse, to go to the media center, to the bathroom or his safe place. Everything about math class is bothering him and he LOVES math. We all (both teachers and I) agreed that we need to set up an IEP asap. Both teachers thought the MP3 player/Ipod was a great idea and wondered why we hadn't been doing it much sooner! LOL! I probably made the spec ed coordinator mad by suggesting it to them when she said it was a NO. (oh well!) We also need to figure out if a traditional mainstream setting is going to work for him next year, all 3 of us are having our doubts.

Betsy