Bad day at preschool

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Bad day at preschool
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Thu, 09-08-2005 - 7:22pm
Well today was Bobby's first day at 3 yr old preschool.

 


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Registered: 05-16-2003
Thu, 09-08-2005 - 8:58pm

Hi Tina,

I could have written that post a coupla' years ago when Jack was in a typical pre-school. They'd sit and listen to the story and he'd take off his shoes and run around in circles.

Honestly, I'm sure the other moms noticed less than you thought. Really. In my case, they had a group in to observe Jack and I was so mortified that everyone knew.... turns out the other moms thought the TEACHER was getting observed so they were jumping through hoops trying to make her look good!

I'm sorry it's hard. I empathize. (I ended up on the playground alone once with him in the cold and I was crying b/c he was so different. And once I bolted from class b/c I just couldn't do it.) That's natural.

But it sounds like the teachers are good support. And you know what? Now he'll be in the class with just the other kids and they won't notice a thing, I promise you! The worst is over. Now I hope he gets evaluated and IEPd soon and you get everything in order.

Chin up,
Cathy (who had McDonalds two night ago)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 09-09-2005 - 12:02am

Tina,

I am sorry I didn't get to you sooner. I read this post just as I was running out of the house. YOur post was so familiar I could see it and felt my stomach twisting for you. I hate those days. The good thing is that it will get better. That kind of stuff goes away.

If he continues to have a tough time can you pull him out until the eval is done? There is no need to punish yourself or him if he is going to have another change from it soon. If he does calm down within a couple days that is great, but if it continues to be that tough you may just want to nix it for now.

If you do decide to stick with it there are probably some things you all can do to help him. He is a very confused little boy who didn't know what to do or what was expected. At that point behavior is communication. What is he trying to communicate. Most likely it is get me the heck out of dodge.

Sending big hugs. Ya know I think we have all been through this one. I know I have more times than I can count. Still remember most of them, clearly. Have some wine and cheese. I will even share the good cyber chocolates.

Renee

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Fri, 09-09-2005 - 9:26am

((((Tina)))))

BTDT and I so feel for you! The first day or two are the worst, because this is sooo new and such a change and well, everything. He may surprise you and settle into the routine pretty quickly. Some kids do well in preschool, particularly if it is well structured.

I'm with Renee, however: If he doesn't show any signs of settling down in a few days, pull him out. There is no use in prolonging the pain for either of you.

-Paula

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Registered: 02-24-2004
Fri, 09-09-2005 - 3:36pm

Tina,

I'm so sorry that Bobby's first day didn't go so well. I know how hard it is being around NT preschoolers. Nathan went to a regular preschool too. It's hard to watch. Mine didn't do the running around, not sitting still thing.....instead he would space off into his own world. Even find a toy and obsess about it. All the other kids would be talking and playing together. And ACTUALLY paying attention when spoken too!

That's nice that you're going to get an "in class" eval done. Nathan had the same thing. It really helped to let me know what wasn't neurologically typical in his behavior. I have an 8yr NT, but every child is sooo different, it was hard to tell with him. Best of luck on the evals and hope Bobby's IEP gets done soon!

Michelle

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 09-09-2005 - 5:08pm

So how did day 2 go? Did you keep trying or what has happened.

This one brought back tons of memories for me. Even of Dave at that age. Everywhere we had those problems. WHen Mike was in kindie I would have Dave under one arm struggling and screaming to get down so he could run into the street and Mike hitting me and screaming because he had horrible times with transitions and as of yet no accurate diagnosis or IEP.

I had lots of pick ups and drop offs that year and at all of them someone would make a comment about Dave. Some even assuming he was autistic. At every one I would be holding onto him while he struggled and screamed to get down and run and wouldn't listen to anyone. With lots of busses and cars around I couldnt let him down. Now looking back it is funny but at the time, well, it tested my mental stability.

Renee

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Fri, 09-09-2005 - 6:13pm
Well he is only going 2 days a week right now.

 


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