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|Wed, 04-28-2010 - 2:01pm|
Anotherheather's post about the in school suspension brought up a subject I've been kicking around lately.
How do we, as the parents of kids with spectrum disorders, balance the needs of our child against the needs of those around them or our other kids? Clearly in the case of Heather's kid the student is NOT getting the support he deserves at school and there's a problem there that needs to be addressed and the ultimate fault is with the system. I think we've all been there at one time or another and this story is probably a familiar one to just about every poster here. This is not about fault and blame, it's about how to deal with the fallout.
That said, when things fail and our kid is throwing things or exhibiting dangerous or disruptive behaviors, how do we cope with the fact that our child needs something that is maybe at odds with the needs of the rest of the group? Is it "screw the rest of them, mine comes first" or is there a way people have found to deal with this conflict?
What works for you? What tips do you have to share for helping our kids deal with needing something different from those around them when the system isn't managing to support them? How do you as a parent deal with the "we can't handle him today" phone call that I suspect most of us have gotten at least once?