Bday party invitations....

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Bday party invitations....
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Tue, 09-25-2007 - 7:34am

Jack is 6 and PDD-NOS and just starting Kindergarten.

He really didn't receive any bday invites in a couple of years. This made me a little sad, as my two DDs get invited to parties all the time -- and my older DD had 4 playdate invites in a span of 24 hours last weekend! But if the alternative was taking him to parties, that's hard too.

So now he's in K., and we just got one for a tae kwon do party. I emailed the mom to regret. I just can't deal with the idea of chasing him around a gym while all the other kids are lined up listening and following instructions.

Anyway, I seem to be bummed if he's invited and bummed if he's not. Argh. Thanks for listening.

Cathy

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Tue, 09-25-2007 - 9:43am

Well Liam started Tae Kwon do after a Tae Kwon Do party, lol. Granted it was a aparty for a classmate with autism and most of the other kids were spectrum too. We are blessed with a fabulous instructor though who even runs a speciel needs class. How about you call up the Tae Kwon Do center and ask the instructor if they have a spec needs class and if your son would be ok there. My experience of the party was a lot of games, not so mush lining up. And remember they have all the cool crash pads etc. Obviously you know your ds best; other Liam had two invites last years and one was from a neighbor who invited EVERYONE and the other was his ASD friend.

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Tue, 09-25-2007 - 11:33am
I'm in the same place as you.
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Tue, 09-25-2007 - 1:09pm

Malcolm (now 10) also attended his very first Tae Kwondo "class" at a party, and the instructors there were very sweet. Also, although it was not a party designed for special needs kids, at about age 6 my PDD-NOS son was not the only kid who didn't participate in every single moment. And my son was actually drawn by the forms and exercises, they didn't do such a demanding formal class for young kids ... there was alot of kicking and punching of bags held by the instructors and an obstacle course ... he had a blast!!! You might want to re-invite yourselves? Although you know your own kid best, and if you are not up to trying this out, I sure do understand. Also, you could try calling the Tae Kwondo school and asking about their parties and how structured or demanding they are, what would happen if a child was really uncomfortable participating and how the staff would handle it.

Malcolm, 4 years later, has his green belt with blue stripe and is almost to his blue stripe. It is a pleasure to watch him doing the forms and even the sparring. We have been very happy with the many lessons he has learned through Tae Kwondo, sticking with lessons when they get hard for him, dealing with jealousy of others who are better (and sometimes younger) than he is, enjoying sweating, having a respectful relationship with his sensei and other students, and then the joy of getting the belts. All good. I love Tae Kwondo for my son.

When your child is young, parties can be particularly tough, esp. on the parent, but also on a child with high sensory needs. We started out going to lots of special needs parties, and now my son is a regular old pro at any kind of party! I just want to say I do understand, but there will be other parties in the future and when you are both ready. Having fun and participating at parties can be learned.

yours,

Sara

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Tue, 09-25-2007 - 4:31pm

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Tue, 09-25-2007 - 6:07pm

Hey Sara,
OT here, how does your center deal with the stripe colors? I know Grand Master has gone back to black stripes again, but ot instructor is still using colored stripes for now (whie for form, red for sparring/one steps and green for self defense).

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Tue, 09-25-2007 - 9:18pm
OH i totally feel your pain!! My bobby is 5 and jsut started Kindy.

 


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